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Okay so when i was a teenager and in my early twenties i was insecure and used to scared from allot of things , then in my mid twenties i became less insecure and less fearful , now that i am almost 30 i am back to being insecure and scared from allot of things . Is it normal ?
You need to wank more regularly, it will make you smile and then you can get all the happy thoughts.
Of course it's normal. It' a regression of feelings. It's usually brought on by an event that may have recently happened. It doesn't even have to be a big one. For example: maybe you had low self-esteem about looks and your mother was well meaning but basically told you all the ways you could lose weight or change your appearance, suggesting that you're not good enough and making you feel that way. Well as you get older, you hopefully work through these feelings and get over them instead of pushing it down (which you did, even if it wasn't these particular feelings). But maybe your mom comes into town and says "Have you been gaining weight?" or a guy rejects you because you "aren't hot enough" for him. It's been YEARS since you dealt with those feelings but it's perfectly natural for them to come back in an instant. Do you see what I mean? It's kind of like a childhood flashback. You spent a portion of your life thinking in one way. Even if you don't think that way anymore, it's natural for your brain to remember that thought pattern so if you're feeling down or hear a little comment about something related, it makes sense that the old familiar thought pattern could leak into your new perception of yourself and take over. A far more extreme analogy would be an addict. Maybe an addict hasn't touched drugs/alcohol in 20 years but the body retains the information of the addiction so it's still easy to slip back into the bad pattern. Now of course, yours is not a drug or alcohol and it's not an addiction but it's the same concept.
You worked through it once and you can do it again. A psychiatrist or therapist could be beneficial if you're willing (but it's perfectly ok if you're not) because they are trained to help us create new patterns whether it's how to deal with things or what we think of ourselves of how we view the world. They could help you figure out why you felt that way in the first place and what triggered the return and maybe even how to avoid a new trigger or stop a new trigger from affecting you so much, assuming you find a psychiatrist/therapist that works for you. But that's just a suggestion, they're very helpful when you find the right one.
I get that too. Just when you think that you've passed those awkward insecure moments in your life, you realize you're actually reverting back.
I think you should get down to the bottom of it by first figuring out what it is thats making you feel this way. And look at how you are now, and look back at how you were then, check out what the differences are. I mean, you know that the difference is that you're more insecure now than before, but maybe there was something significant in your life back then that for some reason made you feel more confident & happier. Then just concentrate on that, and bring it in to your life now. If that fails, just talk with a professional about it.
You know most people write incorrectly 'alot' with only one L.
But you write it doubly incorrectly with 'aLLot'. I mean what are you, an idiot? Have you ever even once decided to be a man and learn something? How exactly are you going to teach your own children A LOT of things, when you know zilch yourself?
Good luck, you'll need it (a lot!)