Is it normal to give up trying with my boyfriends family?

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I have this boyfriend who i live with, we both work etc. Now his family doesn't live around our area, at least 40 miles away from us. He has 2 sisters and a mum. Right, we have been together for nearly 6 years now and I've met all his family and spent time with all of them. My boyfriend asked me to try harder to be my self around them because i am quite shy, so i did, i have been my self, talking to all, making conversations etc. We see them on a regular basics. Buy Xmas presents, send birthday cards etc and it's always me remembering and thinking about them. Since we have been together, not one of them has asked something like this "hey, how about you two meet up with us next week?" just an example. It's always been me saying about meeting up, not once have they invited me to anything what so ever. Its mothers day coming up and i get the fact it's just going to be them, no one else, but it hurts when he was the only one to be invited to stay over night again. I even sent his little nephew and niece and letter from Santa Claus but nothing at all was said to be.

I just want to give up with his family, I've tried so hard and getting no where, i no full well they don't like me because it's the way they talk to me and look at me, but if i try talking to my other half, its like no they don't, its you being over dramatic.

what should i do, give up or keep on trying for the rest of my life?

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  • changes123
    11 years ago

    People like that... you can try for lifetimes, but you're still wasting your time in the end.

    If they do not show effort to even accommodate you, then don't bother. They will always find a reason to dislike you. Live your life the way you want it, and don't let them bend you over backwards for nothing.

    P.S: Don't bother arguing with them, or being rude to them. Just nonchalantly acknowledge their presence, and move one with yours. It's your boyfriends family... sometimes, people like that come with the package.

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    • monkey4kitten
      11 years ago

      Hi, you sound like you know what your talking about, wish i could talk to you about all my problems, you might be able to make my life worth living again.

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      • changes123
        11 years ago

        Whenever you'd like, I'm here.
        Just pop in and send me a message.

        Good luck <3

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        • monkey4kitten
          11 years ago

          What you mean by pop in and send you a message?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    My OWN family is this way with ME. I have almost given up on all of them. I only keep in touch with my younger sisters. They are a strange bunch

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  • dinz
    11 years ago

    Honestly, it is like if you took my life story and posted on the internet.

    I done all sorts of things to impress my ex partner's family even having a separate closet of clothes that I thought deem "acceptance" to her family. In the end I just gave up and realised if they don't accept me, well stuff them.

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