Is it normal to give up on your romantic happiness?

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Im 23 and have never had a meaningful relationship, and can count on my hand the number of times I have been laid. After rejection, after rejection, after rejection, I have essentially given up on the prospect of finding a good girl for me. My question is this, considering my lack of ability to find a g/f in high school, and furthermore in college, why do I think things will change now that I am graduated? The need to feel loved and have human contact is fairly high on my list of priorities, but with this pattern that I have noticed, I'm starting to mentally settle into a path that will certainly mean I never have a girlfriend for as long as I live. Is this normal or should I seek a therapist?

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Based on 41 votes (27 yes)
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  • WoodsLives
    11 years ago

    Kudos to you for realising the truth! Contrary to common perception, you DON'T need companionship. Fill your time with more productive and mentally stimulating activities.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Try going to singles club dances. Worked for me.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    I have given up on it too. So I know the feeling. there is no point to them.

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  • Ryan555
    11 years ago

    I gave up in 7 th grade after my first gf I can count on my hand sex inconters to its a fist and I don't want a gf after the first I'm 25

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  • crazygirl?
    11 years ago

    Dont worry its normal, Im 19 year old female, but i haven't really had a real decent relationship :( which makes me sad i really want this so called "love". I want to be around that person everyday and be happy and blah blah.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Companionship is essential to human life.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      fuck human life

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      • Terence_the_viking
        11 years ago

        Somebody needs some mustard.

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        • [Old Memory]
          11 years ago

          i like mustard

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          • Terence_the_viking
            11 years ago

            Everyone like mustard it brings people together.

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  • lubthechub
    11 years ago

    If you take care of yourself, and fill your time with hobbies and friends, the right girl will come to you. from my personal perspective, the times that I've been able to attract a nice guy (ha, I'm a girl :P) where the times that I was more focused on being confident and also when I was really enjoying being single! You never know when the love bug will get you, (and her) but if you are keeping a good eye out for it, you'll find it. Or she will find you!
    Good luck!

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    • Judofan420
      11 years ago

      While I appreciate the insight, its a little different for women than it is for men. In our society, its up to the man to initiate the conversations and ultimately ask for a date. I used to have this whole "who cares if she says no, your in the same spot you were 5 minutes ago" mentality when asking girls out, but now after this many years, I just can't do it anymore, the rejection is breaking my will. But the fact that some people feel similar to me gives me some reassurance, even if it is slight, so thank you all.

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