Is it normal to give up on relationships?

I feel so sorry for you. It must feel so bad for you to be turned down/rejected/broken-hearted. But I really wish that you would reconsider if you really want to give up on relationships.

I know you feel really frustrated about being turned down, and it has affected your normal life/work. But at the end of the day, if you really give up on relationships, then the result would only the one - you know, which is rather depressing. On the contrary, if you keep trying, even though you heart may be ripped up from times to times, at least you still have chances.

One of the factors which make a long-last relationship so precious is that it's not easy to find. You may experience a lot of heartache during the process of finding love, but I believe it's just the cost and it's all worthwhile.

Maybe you should refresh yourself and renew your life first. Loving yourself is essential to loving someone. If you're confused about your work/life, how would you be able to start a relationship healthily?

It's actually a vicious cycle. When you're turned down, your career performance deteriorated and you became depressed, which left you disheartened/ less confident and made it harder for you to find the right partner. Maybe you should settle to work again and try to do things (your hobby?)that you enjoy to lighten up your life.

I believe that when you can finally overcome your depression and start to enjoy life/work again, you'd become a more attractive person and it'd be easier for you to find the right partner.

In my opinion, it's too early for you to give up. I know I'm not qualified to criticize you, and actually I'm not trying to. I just really wish that you can stay strong and keep trying.

Good luck :)

Hey..it could also be that you are still stuck with the choices you used to have when you were 18. some people have that. check it to yourself....at times we all need to do some reality check as well. its OK!(i mean it with good intentions)

now at your age...go for little matured wine...and you'll like the taste m sure!! they are even more beautiful in many ways than those bubbly girls! hehehe

keep smiling and enjoy life! it indeed is beautiful!:)

Thanks for all the feedback guys. But it does seem, at least according to the poll like I should stop trying. I've struggled with this a long time, talked to people about it, but the answers are always so, generic. The truth is, after being alone for so long, i feel like I've missed out on so much already. Worse yet, i don't feel like anyone will ever love me for who I am. I don't even know if i care enough to let anyone in either. Some part of me, will always be resentful that it has taken this long. So no, it's not worth it anymore. I give up. I don't know what this will do to me in the long run but, it's not like anyone is going to care anyway.

Good things come to you when you aren't looking for them. Just relax, don't try to rush into relationships, although i'm sure your friends situations aren't making that easy. :) It's going to come when you give up the most, so wait! Life the single life, if your really a nice guy like you say, it will come :)

sorry this is so long bht when i read what u wrote it made me sad for u...please dont give up be strong dont let anyone ruin what u have accomplished or what is to come for ur future....i made thats mistake maybe if i can change one persons mind about this situation it will help me heal as well.. im soo happy and i know u will be too.. remember there is someone for everyone....and the day u r walking in the airport or reading a book and u look up to that girl that is meant for u ull know...maybe not right away but if u let it be and make sure shes nothing like the girls uve gone after before....i know u can be happy again...u seem smart and sweet.....lemme know what u think about my long ass story lol...good luck hun...and just no ur not alone:-))

went out with the hottest guys just to make myself feel better...but i didnt i felt unloved and shitted on my the people closest to me...i hurt guys feeling because i didnt trust and its still hard for me to, i wanted to hurt before i got hurt again i couldnt take it again...eventually i did what i thought was best and stopped partying so much less bars and clubs fooling around whatever i slowed down almost to a hault like u feel like doing...i thought two things this is it for me im done im to young to worry about this drama filled relationship crap.....and thats what i didso advice number three is3# Quit SEARCHING FOR SOMETHING NOT THERE. the minute u let go and realize u come firstin ur life..followed by a partner when its time ur heart will lighten...shes out there believe me i thought it was to late for me i didnt want anyone again....single forever! nope not it. he came to me my love found me....and i loved next to him my whole life....never liked eachother...gave eachother a chance and i fell in love.

your making the biggest mistake i think a person can do...actually the two biggest mistakes.....1# NEEVER GO LOOKING FOR A DATE A FRIEND A SEX BUDDY WHEN UR GOING OUT!(even if ur horny or lonely or all ur friends r doing it.)2# THink to yourself is this the kinda place i wanna meet my serious gf id that were to happen?.(a bar a club ect)? i highly doubt it if u know whats good for urself.ive been where u were im a twenty three yr old female .had a bf since i was sisteen and he lived with me was my first and we wereon and off for six years! he was my world ...then there was my best friend who i knew since kindergarden we were so close . yet they hated eachother somewhere down the line they ended up doing eachother behind my back..i was devestated.i was ninteen and only had one boyfriend my whole.life...i felt.lost,plus i made the decision to cut ties with them both so o lost my bestfriend and my heart all in the blink of an eye...man did i feel like shit...i rebelled as some do....partied drank smoke hung out