Is it normal to get very emotionally invested in fictional characters?

I watch every genre of film and TV (from here on, I'll just say film and imply TV as well). Except horror.

But some films with believable human drama (sub)plots have a particular effect on me- some characters I feel really connected to emotionally, and I often feel like this for quite a while after I finish watching it, especially if the character experiences strong emotions like 'true love', loss, despair...you get the idea. I think that I identify with these characters strongly- it's often people my age or with other similarities to me (though not always). Which makes sense.

I'm not a generally emotive person as such and often come across cold; I hate faking emotions, concealing emotions feels natural. Yet these films can really make me feel pain, joy, etc. Occasionally, I would think back to a particular event in a film long after I watched it, and it could still make me start to cry (from sadness or even happiness). I can feel strong empathy for real people obviously, given the right circumstances, even though I'm not good with people socially. What I find unusual is that this empathy can be so strong and lasting even with fictional characters.

I know plenty of people cry at sad movies, but this is a deep feeling which stays with me. I feel like the character is a part of me, sometimes to an uncomfortable extent.

P.S. I read the occasional novel, and the same thing can happen.

P.S.S. I can become infatuated with characters, though I suspect this is not uncommon. I can also become infatuated with the location of the film and want to live there, but this is not as common for me.

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  • Short4Words

    The reason why you may feel empathy with such characters is because many characters are real pieces of a human soul, somethings things people want to hide away, put our put out on paper or animation, what have you. I don't think there's anything wrong with what you do or the empathy/investment you have in characters as long as you keep it pertaining to their context. As in not think they are actually real which I don't believe you do. I have a few characters I consider idols, and sometimes as warning signs of who I could be. I mean they are all like me in someway but they are just pieces of a whole, and in reality I am truly relating with their author. Anyways I rambled, but there you have it.

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    • thanks; yes I don't think they are real, which is what makes it seem strange to me. I understand what you mean, that the writers are reflecting themselves and people they know, so there is real humanity behind the fictional characters.

      Still, it seems unduly affecting. It doesn't even need to be a long film, it could just me a single TV episode and a non-recurring character, and I'll be thinking about it for the next few days. I'll probably eventually forget about it if it was just in one episode, so it isn't just a small number of significant characters that this happens with for me.

      Thanks again, your comments are very helpful.

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      • Short4Words

        I'm losing focus on what exactly you feel towards these characters. So you say, even a small character, what is it you feel about them?

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        • It can be a major character, but my point is that it can also be small characters- the prominence of the character isn't generally a factor, it depends on whether I feel I identify with the character, as well as other factors probably. Maybe it's the characters that I'm able to understand best for whatever reason.

          Anyway, what I feel about them depends on the story, I feel how I think they feel- it's probably sympathy more often than not, since tragic events tend to be most likely to invoke emotion. By the way, I enjoy writing about this, it's relaxing, so ask as many questions as you like, seriously.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I feel that way about house cats!

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    • It's funny you should say that, sometimes I feel like this with cats (and other animals) too! My family had a cat and I got much more upset than anyone else in the family when it got some unknown illness, I was angry at my parents for not taking it to the vet sooner, and felt relieved when it died that it wasn't suffering any more (fortunately for my conscience I was living at uni during this time). And I remember when I was going inside and felt really guilty to leave it out in the cold (parents didn't allow it in) and even tried to get its attention and try to express to it that I'm sorry, haha! And I'm not one of those people who think their pet is really smart and would understand me, but I still felt compelled to try. It probably didn't help that this cat always gave me the impression of being depressed and miserable!

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      • RoseIsabella

        Awe, poor little guy. My heart goes out to both you and your late kitty. That reminds me of something experienced today.

        I saw saw a scared and emaciated German Shepherd mix running in traffic today. I tried to catch her but she was very afraid and wouldn't stop or come to me or the other good Samaritan woman who tried to catch and help her. Poor doggie, it was a sad thing to watch and be a part of for me.

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    • Yeah, because they're awesome! :]

      All the important people know this.

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  • Poleman

    I masturbate to cartoon characters

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  • DannyKanes

    Jeez, you should watch Attack On Titan then :D

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    • Anime7

      lol. Why even bother getting emotionally invested at that point.

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    • Short4Words

      NO.

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