Is it normal to get utterly bored of relationships/sex within weeks?

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I am 20, and have had a fair few relationships. I'm a good looking girl and don't have many insecurities. I've found with every single guy, that within a month or two, I'm completely and utterly bored of them. Bored of the sex more than anything else, but also conversation. I enjoy their company, just not as much. I know it's normal for the spark to go out after the honeymoon period is over, but this has happened to every guy without fail and it's ruining my current fantastic relationship! I love him to bits, and in every other way I'm a great and caring girlfriend and he is wonderful to me. He thinks it's something wrong with him, but it's me... At least I think. I'm an extremely sexual person by nature and get off by myself a few times a day, and find porn gets me off easier than anything else, but I'm not interested in sex with him anymore. I can't get excited by him in the slightest, like I did when we first met. I still find him really attractive and I don't know what's wrong with me. Is it normal?

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  • iindia
    12 years ago

    Take this from my own experience. Try only sleeping with him, stop watching porn and don't touch yourself. Find another daily stress release.

    Sexually energy has to build up it is a chemical reaction in your body of hormones. Like recharging a battery. This has everything to do with the habit. (e.g. smoke too much and I need more butts to get the same feeling) Porn is great but the stimulation that exotic pornography provides is dulling your taste for the real thing.

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  • Gfrigo
    12 years ago

    How long have you known him? And how often do you meet. It may just be overexposure. Sometimes a little time apart can relight the spark between two people.

    If you went a couple of weeks maybe even a few months without contact you may be more attracted to him. It may also be that a routine bores you. Try to change things up. Tell him to be a little more spontaneous.

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