Is it normal to get turned on by being cheated on?

So i guess it cannot technically be called cheating if you are aware and sort of consent. Still, the first few times it was cheating. So i am 27 and my husband is 45. I visit the gym, i stay fit and take care of my appearance. He is average. We have been together since i was 18. The first time i caught him cheating was 2 years ago. With an older women. I was devastated, but decided to forgive him. The second time it happened it was with a friend of mine. Once again i decided to forgive him but this time i was turned on by it. After that i would ask him to describe who he was fucking and how they felt. I went as far as asking to taste them on him. Yes i know this is so embarrassing! I hate myself for liking this. But nowadays if i want to fuck him i can only do it after he fucks someone else. I know i am a freak. But am i really alone in this? I love the fact that some other random girl gets him. Am i alone? Does no one else like this? Should i leave him and try to get help?

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  • doug_licks

    its hot imo too! i love when she comes home full of another guys or multiple guys seed! I and you must be a cuckold!!

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    Well, this is a fetish for some people and a lifestyle choice for others. Polyamory and open relationships are becoming more common, either out of a mutual desire to experience more sexuality in their lives or of a lifestyle preference for multiple partners all in a relationship together.

    But the defining feature of all of this is consent. Agreed upon beforehand rules of engagement, if you will - on how people should act, what they share and not, what safety precautions they take.

    This is not present in your relationship. I agree with AbnormallyAwesome, it sounds like you've found yourself in an abusive relationship. That is a huge age difference and you were in a position of just getting into adulthood and figuring out your life when you married this man. I'm sure at this point the change is frightening, but you deserve someone who respects you and doesn't just run out and cheat on a whim, and if you want to explore a sexuality with multiple partners, should be able to do it with a partner who you can trust, not one who uses you and lies to you.

    Keep your safety in mind, too. I don't know if he's controlling in other ways or is at this point simply abusing your trust just to get his rocks off, but if this is an abusive relationship leaving is the most dangerous time. If you want out, make a plan, find where you're going to go, and set all that up before hand.

    And on top of that, is he using protection with these women? If not you should probably get yourself tested, and honestly it's putting yourself at risk for STDs to be with him after these other women. Keep yourself safe above all.

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    • Ellenna

      That's a very intelligent and thoughtful response! I wish I'd written it

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  • Ellenna

    Hey, what turns you on turns you on and this is a very common fetish, but more common for men than women.

    I reckon there's a possibility you're attracted to women as well as men, which is also common and quite ok as long as everyone involved is being honest and caring and full consent is being sought and given.

    If he's fucking other women he MUST use condoms with you: don't trust him to only use them with other people. Don't risk your health, please!

    You do sound confused about your own feelings: maybe some therapy would be a good idea? Or a trusted and responsible friend you could confide in?

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  • AbnormallyAwesome

    Assuming this is more than a 45 year old troll's fantasy, I would be concerned about you. I'm not usually one to judge what turns you on, but in this case it sounds like you're in an abusive relationship. So you married an older man you met when you were 18. That's very young, and that's an age when you'd still be discovering your own sexuality. Then this douche cheats on you and it's devastating. So now your tortured mind is very fragile. You have two choices: You can accept that the man you love turned out to be a total shitbag and to walk out on him - But that would mean change and change is scarry. Or you can choose to stay in the relationship and satisvy your primal need for security, but you'll have to justify him cheating somehow. Obvioussly you didn't want to feel like a victim so you decided you're actually into what he did and so this would almost make it okay. I'm not saying you made this choice on purpose, but it sounds like this might have been what happened in your subconsciousness.

    It doesen't even matter so much. The truth is this man cheated on you several times with no regard for your feelings. He's an asshole who doesen't love you and it's time to leave him.

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  • spunkluvr

    Only if I can watch.

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  • randypete

    love it when she comes home full of guys cum so I can eat her pussy full of cum

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  • RoseIsabella

    That's messed up!

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  • desermoon

    I brought that up to my girlfriend and I thought she would break up with me..instead brings a girlfriend over but I couldn't go through with it feeling weirded out.

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