Is it normal to get this lazy while in a relationship?

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I've always been motivated by depressing stuff. I do what I have to because I want to impact this world I'm in. I don't really want to be in this position, but I accept the responsibility of carrying burdens.
I don't think my personal life is so bad but I do feel that if there is a hell, this planet is it.
My sole purpose I have taken is to do what I can while I am here. I try to have as much fun as I can while I am at it, but I often think things would be better if there was nothing.
I was in a relationship for a few years a while back with a girl I really liked although things didn't work out.
One of the problems was that when I was with her I felt content for the only time in my life. When I was with her my burdens went away, and because I became content, so did my motivation. I felt that if I had died that I would be satisfied as of then. The bad thing about this however is that being content made me forget about the burdens I carry. If it wasn't for those burdens I would feel no purpose in life and while it's a sacrifice I have to make, I would never be able to accept doing nothing about it.

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  • Freedom_
    10 years ago

    Maybe she just wasn't the right one for you because, while love is great, it's not just about rainbows and butterflies. You can't really say you're lazy in all relationships if you're basing this observation on only one.

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  • kit-kat-bar
    10 years ago

    So you are only motivated by burdens? How long were you together? Did she care about your laziness?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I don't know if "motivated by burdens" is the best way to describe it.
      I am motivated by wanting change. It can be burdening to make change sometimes. Often I don't truly get anything out of what I want but I sacrifice my time and efforts because I think everyone should try to make a change. Otherwise they're no better than everyone who complains about how shitty the world is and do nothing about it.
      I'm actually not lazy at all, but when I was in a relationship, I felt satisified, so I didn't do all the things I otherwise would do. The relationship lasted 4 years by the way.
      The reason I work so hard normally is because I hate our society and want to do what I can even though there is no reward for myself.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    I felt like I had died inside when I was married to my first ex husband but it had nothing to for with contentment.

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