Is it normal to get screwed every time you help people.

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It just seems over the last 10 years I have more people asking for favors and to help them out. I have done ok for myself and family and I emphasize ok because I have debt just like mist other people. However if a friend is in trouble o always try to help. I have lost a few friends by helping them and then being shit in when it was to pay back. My wife says I'm too easy and try to help too much but it honestly makes me feel good at the time to help people. I just feel stuck now because I like to help friends but would rather say NO and hopefully still be friends, than to help them and them have them avoid me when it's payback time. It would be nice to see Karma work it's way towards my family like I always believed it would. Thanks for your time.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Boundaries; you need them. No relationship can survive without them.

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  • hellostrangers
    12 years ago

    "No good deed goes unpunished."

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  • kenfit31
    6 years ago

    Look its good to help . i have run into the same in the past over n over. First realize you might be helping for the wrong reason. You said it makes you feel good and cant help yourself. Although most would say your honorable stop maybe you are selfish. Helping others isnt about you. Try to see things different help someone that you expect nothing from. You wont get screwed and you may see i speak the truth. Good luck.

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  • ZaneT
    7 years ago

    You should help people, BUT you just need to use your discretion in deciding who to help and how much. Not everyone you help in life will be able to pay you back directly but a thank you goes a long way. Learn to say no occasionally if u think u are being used. If I decide to help someone, I do it because I want to and most times do not expect anything in return. I have also been helped in life by complete strangers who I will most likely never see again. The best u can do sometimes is pass it on by helping others who genuinely need a hand.

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  • Gena45
    12 years ago

    it is really nice of you to want to help people, but the sad truth is that people DO screw you over if you let them. You said whenever someone needs help, you pretty can't help yourself and have to help. While that's very honorable, it is also setting yourself up to be used. By no means am I saying to start being selfish, just slow it down a bit. Don't say no to everyone, but only help when you know they absolutely need it and have no one else to help them. Otherwise, let them understand that you have your own problems too and can't always help others with them.

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  • sleepingbeauty
    12 years ago

    I am someone that will always help out and support anyone that needs it and I don't mean financially (although I have done that too in the past).

    I have found only the occasional person actually appreciates it. Otherwise you are taken for everything your willing to offer (physically and emotionally) then royally screwed over.

    I am not willing to change who I am though, because there are some good people out there, and those that really value you and your support and will give it in return.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Stop helping people out...
    Be responsibly selfish every once in a while or you'll die helping people out without doing/getting anything for yourself.
    You can't be superman to everyone...

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    Is it normal I get screwed everytime by people who say they wanna help?

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  • trustno177
    12 years ago

    You totally said the same thing I been through . It makes me sick to know there are so many people in this world that just don't give a damn.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Honestly you have to say no sometimes. Once they get a favor outta ya then that's all they see you as. Its like trying to take a stripper to bed, once you give them money that's all they see you as. You have a wife, just befriend her she seems to care about you more than your friends.

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