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IF YOU ARE IN A SPANKING RELATIONSHIP
is it normal to get a "maintenance spanking" a couple of times every week
--even if you've been good and it's not part of foreplay?
Why, how often and how hard?
Do you enjoy it?
If yes, then it's normal.
I get random spanks/punishments just out of random because it turns both of us on.
He uses his hand or a paddle, the paddle is fucking amazing- Requires little effort for him and it leaves lasting marks and stings like hell.
In these sort of relationships both need to be clear about each others limits and preferences. As long as he doesn't push you over your limits without your consent, you guys are fine.
If he however pushes you into accepting things that you don't like- Move on.
So, you are in a BDSM relationship? It's normal if you two are adhering to Safe,Sane and Consensual. Do you use a safe word or does your partner not take your thoughts/feelings into consideration? If its not consensual, it is considered abuse.
What are maintenance spankings?
Maintenance spankings are light spanking sessions conducted by the husband on his wife regularly, without infraction. They're conducted in a very similar manner to how I recommend beginner level spankings be done and warm up spankings be done. ... With maintenance spankings I recommend something lighter be used, such as a spanking buddy, a wooden spoon or the hand. A hairbrush would also work, but it wouldn't be necessary to strike quite as hard as you would when conducting a beginner level spanking.
The frequency at which maintenance spankings are done is at the discretion of the husband (or head of the household). It's recommended maintenance spankings be done about a week apart, but not on the same day every week. For instance, if maintenance spankings are done every Sunday, they'll lose effectiveness since the wife knows they're coming. Anywhere from one week to two weeks apart is ideal, give or take. As always, the husband must be fair with this. If the wife is having a good week, the husband should wait a little longer to do maintenance. If she's having a rough week, do maintenance a little sooner than normal..
See this and more details at:
http://learningdd.blogspot.com/2011/08/maintenance-spankings.html
What exactly are you "maintaining", the red hand prints on your arse? I don't think this is normal, so there are no real 'rules' for how often or hard you should do it, just do what you want.