Is it normal to get pleasure by acting out secret fantasies

So this man who gets sexual pleasure from playing at being a girl and dressing up in usually a slutty bra & panties, then uploads a series of photos/videos to a sexting site? and by doing so gets sexual excitement and satisfaction in the knowledge that he is doing something he feels he cannot reveal as he is in a long term relationship, sk has to keep his sexual desires a secret. This in turn also adds to the feelings of deceit and the risk of being discovered and made to feel humiliated. As this man has developed some very interesting and deeply complicated sexual arousal the fact that it is unknown to anyone who knows him, it becomes even more perverted and taboo. And so even higher states if sexual pleasure are achieved to the point of not aiming to have an orgasm, but to enjoy the sensations and arousal felt by acting out his preferences for what have been known to last many hours and even days. Once orgasm is increasingly more difficult to avoid, he thinks about, discusses online, and will more often than not act out these fantasies, which will include self abuse for sexual excitement. Self inflicted pain is common and will usually involve ropes or cords tied around the genitals to a level that the pain is strong and constant. Also the act of urinating is very common and will follow a pattern of wearing female underwear and making videos of himself on a toilet and "pissing". Either onto his hands or into a glass/cup and often alot of arousing thoughts are achieved by urinating directly into his underwear as he films it, and then posting online with comments either detailing his sexual excitement or hoping to get replies saying he is pathetic, perverted or a freak. It seems to be a combination of the secrecy, the sexual experience, the idea of Strangers seeing him acting out his deepest and most secretive lusts and almost every time this "girl" he loves to play is dominant words like "slut, sex bitch, dirty whore, perverted" are common and indeed are an essential part of the experience. Finally to end this opening discussion which still only hints at the complicated mind of this man, there is almost always illegal drugs involved. More precisely, just one. Amphetamine, which he uses to increase his sexual pleasure and excitement as the drug is very effective at lowering any inhibitions. So, all this is very acceptable to him. Does is sound too bizarre to you, or does it also ignite arousal in yourself. Lets chat.