Is it normal to get over someone by dating other people?

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It is something that I have done and that many other people I know have done. After having a bad break up or dealing with unrequited love, it seems that most seek someone else just to stop thinking about the previous person already.

Right now I am dealing once again with this issue... but it just seems to me that it really isn't the most mature way to deal with this kind of problem. So, I wanted to ask you guys... is it normal to do this?

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    If it works it works, but it shouldn't be used as a tactic to avoid uncomfortable introspection and learning from your mistakes. Stopping thinking about the other person can be good, but don't stop thinking about how you fix your own mistakes.

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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    I just deal with it, I don't think there is any sense in finding someone new just to distract yourself. When they don't fill the void you feel, your back at square one. So you might as well deal with it until you're ready to move on so that your next relationship will actually mean something, and last. I have learned not to rush into something just because I am uncomfortable. It's just what is right for me.

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  • Thatguy777
    10 years ago

    I wanted to do that so bad last year to get over her, but nobody ever wanted to date me in my life so that didn't work. It just made me feel more unlikable

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  • Fall_leaves
    10 years ago

    I did that the first time my ex and I broke up. It didn't help, I just compared the people I dated to my ex.

    I'm kind of freshly single, so for a month now I've just been enjoying my time alone. I deal with the good and bad that comes with ending a relationship, without dating others. I don't want to lead anyone on, or start a relationship until I've really moved on from my last one.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    So you're on the rebound, big deal.

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  • Riddler
    10 years ago

    I have tried this many times. Dating new people is not going to help you get over them. You need time to morn for a period after a break up. Sometimes you just have to realize someone that spectacular might never come around again.

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    • lolol555
      10 years ago

      This is totally off topic but...
      Dude, your name is awesome. Riddler is my second favourite batman villain after the Joker. I've gotten really addicted to the whole b-man series lately so it's cool to see another fan(?) here.

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      • Riddler
        10 years ago

        Oh really? My fav was always Quinn, Riddler, Joker. You know they are adding riddler in the new beyond knight series? They did not say who is going to play riddler yet but Justin Timber-lake volunteered. I do hope they give riddler a better script than he did in the original film.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    I'd not do it. I got over my ex by getting myself a FwB, it helped.

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  • vigorousjammer
    10 years ago

    Sounds like you have issues with self-validation.
    There's nothing wrong with being single...

    Try focusing on all of the other relationships you have with people... friends, family, etc.

    This will let you stop worrying about finding somebody to date right away and instead let you focus on your life, and leave the dating to come whenever it does.

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  • halfemptyhalffull
    10 years ago

    Do what feels right for you.
    and i agree, it isn't a mature way to deal
    It's a strong person that can choose to stand alone

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  • i_will_not_eat_hats_again
    10 years ago

    Well, you're going to have to do it eventually, aren't you?

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