Is it normal to get mad at people for wanting you to be better?

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I have this friend, who is 25 years old and is quite mature in many aspects. However, when it comes to human interaction, he acts like a little kid sometimes.

One of his main issues, is that he never wants to accept any criticism from anyone. Me and some friends usually try to talk to him whenever he does something bad, but he always takes what we say in the worst possible way. We don't even want him to drastically change or anything, we just want to help him.

I don't know if our approach is wrong or something... but I just believe that it is just so frustrating that a person of his age would get mad at people for trying to improve his life. So... is this normal?

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  • peterrabbyt69
    7 years ago

    Is he a queer or are you? If not, who the fuck cares...lol

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  • KaffeInjection
    11 years ago

    Gosh.. Leave him alone, let him be..... Who are you to tell him about any wrong ways?.. You are prolly' not a saint either.

    You can't control or tell him what to do, and if he takes it with salt in the wound it's clearly a sign of him getting pissed off by you not being able to let him be himself.

    Can't stand people who have to tell others whats wrong, or how they can "Get better"... Hate it.

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  • Sumi
    11 years ago

    If you could give us details about this person. Lifestyle, education, parents, etc. Maybe an example of criticism you give him. Since he is mature there is internal drive to change himself. He is likely independent in many ways others are not. Suffers enough self-criticism and adding your suggestions will push him over the edge. Provide extra details if possible.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      For example, he is quite a control freak. He acts in a very dominant way towards all his friends and always wants people to do exactly as he says. He wants to be the leader of our "gang", but he tries to get our respect through "fear" rather than through "love". He is extremely selfish, he never wants to do any kind of sacrifice for anyone. He would never do a favor for another person unless asked. When something, anything, doesn't go exactly as he planned, he gets extremely bitchy. In fact, lately, he doesn't even want to participate in any activity that isn't organized by him.
      Well... deep inside he is a nice person... it mostly seems like he doesn't understand quite well when he does something bad. What me and my friends try to do is to explain him whenever he is not acting in the most friendly way... but he just gets mad at us instead of making a self-analysis.
      There seems to be an explanation to all this... he is kind of spoiled and his mother was always quite a nasty person... but I really just don't think it is fair to blame everything on her...

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  • college
    11 years ago

    Some people just don't take criticism well, and I must admit I'm one of them. Sometimes it also depends on who does the criticizing. If a peer of mine criticizes me I tend to feel insulted, but if an adult much older does the criticizing I find it much easier to take for some reason.

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