Is it normal to get mad, after few years friend forget birthday?

I think it's normal that you get upset about it, but i also think it's normal that she forgets sometimes people are just very bad with dates. If she is a good friend and supports you and cares about you who cares if she can't remember your birthday? You just have to appreciate your relationship! :)

Yes, it's wrong for you to feel that way. It's been more than 20 years that she's continued to forget your birthday and you think she's somehow going to start remembering it?

I'm honestly amused when someone expresses how he or she has no problem doing something and expects that to be a quality that transfers to others. In this case, it's remembering birthdays. This translates to something like, "I remember what's important to me and you should remember what's important to me, too."

Does this friend place any importance on her own birthday? You might be surprised to learn that not everyone cares about birthdays or wants to celebrate. I also think it's a bit much to expect someone to care so much about a birthday when everyone has one.

I guess I just have a bad taste from this when I think about my own friends, one of whom came out and asked me what I was doing for her birthday and then started making suggestions for what she would like me to do for her birthday. I finally just told her, "Let me know what you plan and I'll show up." We're not friends any more. I know she thinks it's because I'm inconsiderate, but I think it's beause she's too needy.

You say she's your best friend. Are you hers? Maybe you're not as important to her as you think.

I'm sorry, that is sort of harsh sounding, but something to think about. There are also some problems with your problem. You don't say how much or meaningfully you two communicate. Sure, you were besties 20 years ago, but do you now just call on birthdays and major holidays? Do you corerspond in any way with any degree of regularity? You don't say how geographically close you two are, either. Or if she has always been like this, or if it only started after she started a family (I love my friends, but there is no friend that I would ever put before my family). She might just be really, really bad with dates. You don't mention what you (alone or with her) do for her birthday. Maybe she feels that you slighted her first. You say that you know everything about her, but you do not indicate what you do with that knowledge. Or maybe like some others have suggested, birthdays are not as important to her as they are to you. Many people decide after so many years that they are just over it and don't want to deal with the hassle any more. Personally, I really prefer to do as little as possible for my birthday. Or after 20 years of friendship, she doesn't feel like she needs to send cards or go out, or whatever. I mean, I have many relatives who don't send me cards for my birthday, and I don't doubt that they love me. You don't seem clear on what you expect from her either. Do you want a call? A card? A dinner date? You say that she remembers every year around your birthday, that is better than a lot of people get from their friends. Maybe her excuse that she is busy is a legitimate issue.

I'm atrocious with dates and rarely even know what month I'm in! My mom actually phones me to remind me to send my niece a birthday card and when I ask what date it's on, she says' "Same date as yours!" My niece is 15 and I've yet to remember on my own - with the same birthday!!

One of my friends tells everyone that I'm her best friend exactly because I never remember her birthday!! She says she has never grown any older in my eyes. I still tell everyone she's 32 whereas she's about 42-45 yo. I don't really know!!

Chill out girl. The only person who remembers your birth is your poor mother - so I hope you send her flowers on your birthday :o)

I'm usually very bad with birthdays. Someone tells me theirs and I'll forget it in a few seconds. This is why I always try to write them done and save them on my phone.

Almost everyone forgets my birthday, that or it's barely celebrated. It hurts when you know your friends birthdays, but they don't know yours.

Do you have a facebook account? If so add her on it and she'll never forge your birthday again. I would be mad though if a good friend forgot my birthday.

I dont want to be mean, but you sound a little clingy in how much you know about her and her not bothering about your birthday at all. You have to realize that its not like you are both still in college anymore, she is married, has a kid, and most likely something of a career as well, those are priorities now, the birthday of someone you went to college with isnt. 20 yrs is a long time to be friends like that though so mayby I am wrong, I also dont really keep in touch with people in general anyway.

Life moves on in many different directions.

Give her hints or something a few weeks ahead of time. Don't take it too personally though, some people just really aren't very good with dates...