Is it normal to get mad & say things that make someone hurt?

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Me & my bf just got into a huge argument & wow it was terrible. What's next? I know I have to just let him talk to me & call me but I kinda don't want to talk to him. I feel ashamed. Yes I miss him & love him but I don't think I deserve his call or anything. I just feel very terrible. I just don't know what to do. If he does call me, I don't even know what to talk about. Should I just ignore him or is that only going to make things worse. 

I got mad over something silly (like always) & things just it the fan & exploded. I ended up hurting myself & destroying my house. :/ I don't know what to do.

He's really upset & sad. I know what I said was really messed up & painful. I'm surprised he's gonna keep going on with his day. I really disrespected him in every way possible.

He said nothing had changed but I know deep down inside that yes. Yes, everything indeed has changed.

What to do? :/

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  • Cobrakitnu
    12 years ago

    God, he must love you.

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    • opal-leaves
      12 years ago

      omfg yeah I know!

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  • BfingIToucher
    12 years ago

    Apologize. Profusely. If you know you were out of line, promise not to do it again and mean it. How could ignoring him help? Be a grown up and take responsibility for yourself.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    you have an anger issue which could stem from some past hurt or injustice, most likely not anything to do with your boyfriend. think deeply about what set you off this time and try and work out what is the trigger. then you can begin to deal with it and not sabotage yourself and your relationships

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  • AutumnSoulwise
    12 years ago

    You stated that you hurt yourself and destroyed your home. What did you do to yourself? Tell us what happened leading up to this. I agree with RANDOMJELLY the wise and thoughtful one, but I am curious about a few things. Do you take medication on a regular basis? You say you got mad over something "silly" (like always), I can relate to that. What was it? Maybe it really wasn't silly... I am trying to help validate your feelings, and I am trying to help you understand that hurting yourself and destroying property is not healthy, and I am worried about your state of mind. I am concerned that you are depressed now, and I would like to reassure you that things can and will get better.

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  • randomjelly
    12 years ago

    Tell him exactly what you told us.

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    12 years ago

    "What to do?"

    HIM!

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    Many do this, but is very bad habit, and a deal breaker for me. I would just have to move on if you could not change. Good luck with your choices.

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  • Tehboss
    12 years ago

    make him a sammich apologize and work from there... and next time learn to respect a man bich

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