Is it normal to get jealous when my best friend makes new friends?

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my best friend has recently started to hang out with a new group of friends. she is obviously still friends with me but she has been going out with them a lot, and I'm finding it hard to come to terms with it because we always go out together.
She is going after one of the guys in the group which i am totally fine with because he's a nice guy but i dont want her to forget the group she's already got.
i do get jealous when i see on facebook she's been tagged with them or she says she cant catch up with me because she has already got plans with them.

i dont want to cling to her and restrict her from doing things, but im just jealous that she is out having fun and she hasn't asked me, because im her best friend, visa versa.

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    I feel the exact same way about a friend of mines. He has a bunch of show choir friends that he sees and hangs out with. Our group likes him a lot and they all enjoy his company. He goes to parties and that's because they invite him not just because he shows up. He has this great social life and girlfriend. Then there's just me. We're still good friends and I value our friendship as I know he does to. But its just...I feel like I'm being left behind almost. Cause as kids we were both losers, but it seems that somehow he came out on top. And I'm still stuck here, on the bottom.

    Anyways, I'm there with you in that I don't want to destroy their friendship or anything. I think it's a good quality to have in a friend, be supportive of whatever they do. I think you're a good friend, and I think she knows that. I also think that it is completely understandable to feel the way you do.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      but what makes it even harder when she's off having a good time without me is that i realise that if i dont have her as a friend then i basically have no one

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      • Anime7
        10 years ago

        Yeah I know what you mean. But at least you guys are still friends. Even if you don't always hang out.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Try hanging out with them, and if that doesn't work out try asking her why she won't invite you to hang with her friends. If she doesn't like the idea you hanging with her friends, then you might have to cut her off.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Everybody want's to be loved you guyssssss

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Why don't you hang out with them 2?

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  • ifonlyuknew247
    10 years ago

    Why can't you go with them? If there's some reason, then just schedule time with just her and you, and most importantly, schedule time with just you and you. I became very dependent on my best friend since childhood, and when we were fighting once years ago (we were both chemically dependent at the time as well, which heightened our emotions to the extreme, made us less rational and not ourselves, and helped in making some horrible life decisions for both of us) she moved away and never returned. We never even spoke again. I was lost like a little lamb for years, drifted into an abusive relationship by a predator who helped push us apart as well. When that ended, I was utterly alone, and the pain was horrible. Co-dependence has been a problem of mine ever since.

    Please take the advice I frequently give others and need to try to do more myself - spend time with you, getting to know you, improving yourself, making yourself happy with who you are. This will change your perspective on everything, and make you a more positive person in the long run.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      hey im the post writer-thankyou for that advice on improving myself. its definitely stuck with me and i'm going to try.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Its normal when youre 7

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