Is it normal to get depressed that i've never had a crush?

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The title sums it up, read on for details...

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I'm already 20 (male) and I've never really "liked" anyone.

I've never had a girlfriend or a crush. I'm sure a few girls must have liked me, but I've never gotten into anything serious and never had strong feelings for anyone else.
I get depressed because I feel like I'm missing out on something that I should already have experienced at this age.

Whenever I see people that like each other or it comes up in a movie or song, I feel empty, like it's something missing from my life.
The problem is that I just can't seem to feel that initial attraction for anyone that I've ever met for me to want to pursue a relationship with them.

It feels like I see the world form an objective viewpoint. Because of this, I can give good relationship advice to others, but I can never satisfy myself.

You can answer the is it normal as per the title.
Any advice in the comments is greatly appreciated.

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Based on 67 votes (46 yes)
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  • Shugaboom
    10 years ago

    I feel the same way and my case is a little bit worse, cause I'm older than you. That depresses me a lot. People tells me I have to wait for the right person, but I know I have to make things happen, but I do not do anything. As you do, I feel an empty space specially when I watch romance and/or sex scenes on TV, cause I want to be there like the actors.

    I hope we can solve our issues

    BTW: nice and interesting poll. It makes me notice am not alone

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  • Geneva5
    11 years ago

    Keep playing call of duty and consider a crack habit - life is not going to get any better - smoke up

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  • dalmationUntoyourSoul
    11 years ago

    i'd consider that fortunate.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      How's that fortunate?

      It's like being the only kid that doesn't get to eat ice cream on a hot day.

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      • dalmationUntoyourSoul
        11 years ago

        i don't get ice cream either. but i think it's more painful to love someone that doesn't love you. maybe you just haven't run into that person yet that makes you lose yourself. it doesn't happen often, maybe twice in 27 years for me.

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  • Zetsubunny
    11 years ago

    Try a mental health professional. They'll tell you what's wrong. My boyfriend used to be in a similar situation up until 17 years of age. He's 20 now and we've been dating happily a little over two years.

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  • jondoerandom
    11 years ago

    Unfortunately it's not something you just gonna believe me until you go through a bunch of relationships yourself.

    But it's so much better to stay the way you are -no headaches, missed phone calls and fights, your cash is your cash, your time is your time.

    I can't even tell you how much I love being single!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I don't hate being single, I just feel depressed about missing out on an experience that most people have had at this age.

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  • beccabooha
    11 years ago

    Its normal to be depressed about it, but it's not normal to never have liked anyone.

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  • Oblivian
    11 years ago

    Have you considered that you might be asexual?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I find women attractive, I just don't have special feelings for any one person and hate missing out on the experience.

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  • kerk_
    11 years ago

    It is normal, but there is no need to be depressed about. I'm sure you would find your love some day

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I sometimes think that, but it's something that I really wish I would have already experienced.

      It sometimes seems like there's just no-one that's really compatible with me.

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    I'm partially the same way, at least from the objective viewpoint part. This seems a little odd to give relationship advice but have you thought about just asking one of the girls that likes you out on a date? Initial attraction isn't always present in future spouses. Maybe once you get to know her, you'll probably fall in love with her.

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