Is it normal to get cheated on, and should you stay or go?

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K, so I'm not at all ugly I love to work out, and I love sex and other spontaneous things, I cook, clean, cut hair, and fun. But for some reason I've been cheated on twice. :( my first man I had two kids with, and he cheated and than once I found somebody new, my first man proposed and I declined. Yeah I got super vulnerable after he did that, so I went and had fun with everybody. But than I found somebody, who I sold all my things for to get on a plane w my two kids to start a life with him. Well we've been together for 6 1/2 years and I had 2 additional kids with him. I take good care of him including oral anytime he wants to find out that he's had an affair practically the whole relationship with a friend and his coworker in our family van he got me. :( I'm bout out the door but he's trying so hard to keep me and is doing anything not to lose me. My first man that cheated, my brothers give me crap all the time cause they can't understand how I was even with him. Cause he's not very attractive. But I wasn't going for looks I was going for a good man. And now this one says be will hurt himself if I leave and that he couldn't live with out me. He, on his own use to call me every break lunch or drive 50 miles home from work if we were in a slightest fight and he would have anxiety attacks bout me leaving him. But he was cheating I don't get it. So I have 4 kids that call him dad. Should I stay or go? I need help I also feel weak to leave cause I depended on him so much and I don't know really anybody cause I isolated myself cause he never wanted me to go out, so I never did. He was popular in school and isn't bad looking but neither am I. Ugh I feel so ignorant I just don't know what I should do

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  • libby.larsen
    9 years ago

    Take all his money. Go to Brazil.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Maybe develop a personality that consists of more than "I am attractive" (Some users are gonna bite me in the ass, I know), and this sort of thing won't happen, because all I get from you is that you think being attractive and willing in sex is all you need to win a guy over completely.

    That aside, he did cheat, and my usual response would be to leave him, clearly. However, you have kids, and from the time with him the kids would be young, so I don't know. It's a tricky one. Perhaps stay with him but be in an open relationship or no relationship with him at all just until the kids grow up?

    I think you should consider the children when it comes to making your decision.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    I've been cheated on plenty of times and I consider myself attractive, sensual, fun natured etc. It happens. Considering that I don't have children, however, leaving them was the obvious option for me.

    I would recommend you stick around and do counseling. Some couples can bounce back after an affair and considering that you have four damned kids who need a father figure, you should seriously consider trying to work shit out. If he cheats again, get out.

    Do remember, too, that sex can pleasure a man but men aren't always simple enough to be 100% into a relationship based on sexual appeasement alone.

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  • bleach_baby
    9 years ago

    That isn't normal cheating, that is basing your entire relationship on deception. If this guy had slept with someone once, or even twice - but this is a enormous emotional and sexual relationship with another women.

    Can him.

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