Is it normal to get back with your exhusband?

holy shit just re read that

NO YOU FUCKING SHOULDNT GET BACK WITH HIM, OBVIOUSLY

if he gave half a shit about you he'd have done a runner on this other girl as soon as you found out

if you want

Sorry for all the mistakes typing on an touch has auto spell/correct but you get the point which is don't get back with him!! :)

Didn't read all the comments but I have been in your shoes minus the violence. My sons dad was/is a liar a cheater and made the same excuses of why he was still with the girl including she's violent and could hurt me and our son. I loved him and took him back a couple of times I was 26 at the time. It took a ling time to get over it pain from cheating, I cheated as well during one of our times back together which wad WAY worse then. Him cheating (according to him). These men are master manipulators and somehow we live them and feel guilty for everything little or big. Here's the thing one day I just said no more I want to show our son what a healthy relationship looks like! I slowly started dating a guy who was a very nice guy but a complete rebound, but it helped me regain my confidence in that a guy could like me even being a single mom. I'm now with a wonderful man who I love and adore and who loves and adores me and my son. He and I have been daring for two years and I am able to show my son what a healthy relationship looks like. I had to do work on myself and can be a struggle as to why I was addicted to that relationship and still struggle with certain aspect like trust. The main thing is that I felt at the time that he was the only man that would love me and that it had to work because of having a child together AND how much I loved him. Don't fall into that trap! It is a dark hole, there is a great guy out there for you, you just need to allow yourself to be open to meet him.

like my best friend in the world is a retard for getting back with her x husband you are also a retard for wanting to get back with him. why the fk would you go through all that divorce and its final than want to be with him? he is a lazy sob doesn't do shit for you or your child. stop making your child the excuse for wanting to get back with him. yourself and your son is ur number one priority. find a rich wealthy caring wonderful man who can support you financially,be a wonderful husband who worships the ground you walk on,who can be a great father to your son, and put a damn roof over your fkn head.
stop thinking about your x. you are seriously stupid for even asking. i swear if this is my best friend posting this i will kick your ass. not really but i will def bitch you out like i already have bitched out my best friend for it.
that'd be like m e running back to my abusive x. oh i have a kid with him and i miss him and he did nothing for me or my baby ever!
see how retarded it sounds? you sound?
move on with your life. you should be happy that the divorce has been finalized and you don't have to deal with his stupid dumb ass ever again. and for the record he is sleeping with the girl that lives with him. and i highly doubt she is paying rent. her rent is having sex with him. thats how she is helping him pay rent.
and i'm not sorry for being to cold
you seriously need to move on and stop feeling like this towards him. what i would give to have ur life right now because i myself have a child and am going through the divorce in court as i type this. i wish it was finalized already so i would not have to deal with his stupid fake dumb ass retardness.
wish the best for u and ur son. please don't take this as a disrespectful way. i mean only well to you. and the truth hurts sometimes.

You know the answer.. Deep down. I have been with my babys dad for 2 years and guys who are physically abusive rarely change which is why we arent together. Think of your son, you know hes going to witness violence and is that normal? Your ex has a history of lying and tells you the girl which he was seeing is living with him that nothing beyond friendship is going on. Come on be wiser than that... If you go back with him I dont feel bad for u cuz you are setting your son and yourself up

Your young, your only 25 and believe me,you WILL find that guy! When I went through my separation I thought no one would want a single mum like me' but I found someone and they treat me' the right way!! Like a princess!! Don't give up and don't go back! Good luck! If u want more help, I'm happy to try :)

ohh my, kellstar..wow..im soo amazed because you actually know wat im feeling and what im going through!! thanks for the post!! =)

every single detail on your last post just woken me up!! for realss..im 25 year old..i have been with this man since high school..

well, he started being abusive after we both cheated on each other and when i told him i was going to divorce him if i catch him with that girl

but he wants me to understand him on why he still has to be with this girl..he said she was crazy for him, that something bad will happen if he leaves her..that is why he said its better if we moved out to another state then that everything will all be fine..but i didnt understand him at all..it just didnt make any sense to me..then he blames me for being with her because i cheated on him.. ohhh llaawwwddd!!

i told him yes i did that but he needs to stop doing it now before i leave..but nope, he was still with that girl..it breaks my heart everytime my son comes home with him and talks about wat they have done together with that girl..but tells me that my son is lieing and doesnt know what hes saying..then more lies and some more lies n lies....!!! then i gave up... until divorce and now he wants me back..ugh..

i really hope that i could meet that man who would love me the right way..who could treat me as a wife and not a mother..That man who will accept my son and become a good father for him..im praying that God will help me go through all of this.. thanks kellstar again!!

Maybe u feel this way about him because u are remembering the good times u had with him and the nice guy he once was. But it sounds to me like he isn't that same guy and going to a family counseling session would not make him a better person, it needs to be done weekly over a long period of time for him to even change IF he is capable of changing. I was in the same sort of relationship to you and I gave mine another chance after he promised he had changed and it seemed that he did, for a week or two and then it was worse than ever. Some people can change but the majority in my opinion don't and only get worse. In the end u will make up your own mind and I'm guessing by your reply that u are leaning towards taking him back. That makes me feel sad for not only you but your son. By paying for him the things he wants will only allow him to keep asking and expecting you to pay his way. U shouldn't pay his first months rent because he will want you to pay all his rent all the time. If he lives with you first he won't move out when you want him too. He won't look for a job and if he does he probably won't last long at it. He likes to sit in front of the tv all day, he WON'T change!
U said in your post that he was so abusive that you thought u would die!! Why would you want that fear in your life and your sons life?
About the other girl, you sound jealous of her living with your ex and I believe that's the least of your worries here. Do you really believe he isn't in a sexual relationship with her? Am wondering how old you are? You sound young and I really hope you will move on and find someone better who WILL treat you right because he WON'T. once again I really don't mean to sound nasty or make u feel bad, that is not my intention at all, I just really wish u could see this man for what he really is, a looser

thanks kellstar!

but why is that i have feelings for this man..its soo hard..also wat if it could work out??.

i admitt i am dumb to decide if i will pay for him to come down here, atleast now he wont be with that girl..its jus one less thing to worry about..

about the job, oh he will look for a job..im thinking i shud jus pay one month of his rent so that he has time to look for the job then his own apartment.. is it normal for me to decide this way? Is this how i should save a family we once started?

Oh and he has NO job and NO money and who do you think will pay for EVERYTHING from fixing his car to paying his apartment? YOU! he will use you for the things he needs and be out the door with another woman maybe before he gets everything he wants done for him by you. It sounds like he needs a mother not a wife or he needs to grow a pair of balls and grow up! If your son sees u upset all the time and how bad his dad treats you, then he may grow up and treat women the same way. Find someone else to be a family with and leave the looser with the other chick, let her be his money problems. You can do better!!!

Don't do it!!! Your son deserves better, allow him to see his son but DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK!! He sounds utterly horrible!! Why would you want to be with him again when you say he does drugs and is an alcoholic who is with another woman? If he wanted to leave the other girl he would have already done it by now, his excuses for not leaving her are just that, excuses! As for him telling you that nothing goes on between them, bullshit!! I think by the sounds of your post you are lonely and maybe desperate. I'm not trying to be mean but I can't understand why after everything u have described u would even think about going back to him. U said u went a happy wife with him and what make u think u would be happy with him again? U won't be. Move on and find someone who loves u and respects you and treats u properly. If u go back to him you only have yourself to blame for being miserable. He couldn't be a good husband the first time so he won't change an if he is lying to you now about the other girl, he will lie to you too. For your sons sake, don't go back, you as a mother need to do right by your son, let them see eachother but leave it at that

JUST SAY NO.

Don't do it you retard

i love him alot and i feel comfortable being with him, only at times wen hes in a good mood..i feel complete and happy..because the only thing i want is a family..i dont know if its dumb for me to take him back even though he doesnt have a job, or he has done stupid things in our marraige..ive made a mistake once myself too..ive cheated once before but i learned alot from my mistakes and never to do them even if i wasnt happy at that time bcuz he wasnt being a husband..yes he cheated too, maybe we didnt really pay attention to each other..until we actually broke up and divorced

and it hurts wen my son wants to know where hes at and that he tells me he wants to see him...and that he misses him

Help! help me see things clearer..im almost at that point that im going to give in agen but i dont wanna make the same mistakes and marry him again then divorce..

NO. Never get back with people you break up with or divorce. If it didn't work once why would you think it would work again?