Is it normal to get angry when you hear about someone self harming

Yes, it's normal. I used to self-harm myself to. It also, makes me mad when I hear somebody is doing it. First off, it brings back bad memories. Second, sometimes I feel like they are seeking attention. Maybe because, in the past in some cases I was seeking it too.

I try not to get angry though. I want to help as much as I can, because I've bee there.

My sister used to do that without me knowing, i was too young to understand. I know now, i see those scars and even though she is older i will chastise her for that shit, even though it means nothing to her. I guess its ok to be mad but, what frustrated me the most was that i couldnt ever do anything about. My sister loves me, but hates me just as much for being the younger sibling stealing away her attention. I can get mad but i feel like it stems from me in the first place.

I know its not helpful. I wouldnt recommend you pursue/pester an alternative for those who self inflict harm but maybe speak out against it in a way that can impact those that, typically are being selfish. I say "selfish" in a negative stereotypical sense as i intended to.

Which is fucked up. Hookers who decide to sell themselves are examples of self harm (however some have absolutely no choice, while some do...)

Its not an easy argument and not an easy answer, requires a lot of discretion and, personal relation. If at all, its not abnormal but should be treated with a lot of sensitivity and discretion.

It requires understanding on individual personal levels. Something of which i still have difficulty accomplishing. My sister doesnt cut her wrists anymore as far as i know (we no longer live with e/o). Obviously i will be upset if i ever learned she secretly continued to do so but i know that if i did something about it, i could be pushing her to do it again or do worse.

Luckily for the both of us, i know she has a good reason not to and can remind her of it. Which is all i will say and honestly all i can do. I love my older sister. I know she loves me and i know she hates me too, at the same time.

If its out of your hands, it is. We ourselves cant be the ones to ell others how to think or live their own lives. We can be there and thats about is, whether or not we are accepted by the, depends on them. In the example of me and my sister, me forcing it could be negative. And i love my sister, so i wont risk it.

Maybe for those people that inflict harm on themselves that really get to us, that care, the only thing we can do is show them how, harmful...

it can be. Ive been ranting a lot on here tonight. Your post wins, and not in a good way either... Good luck!

I use to do it whenever i got over angered or really upset about anything but angry metal music and nu metal korn has saved me from all of that

so whenever i hear of it happening i would get mad also because i am concerned for the other person having to suffer and selfharming is no laughing matter it is very dangerous and some scars are permanent

like say your at school and your Bff gets hurt and breaks some bones or somthing the teachers or other students pamper them just like when your little brother gets the flu and gets all of the attention right? so you feel jelous and want to be pamperd like them :]

There is nothing wrong with you. I get mad when people do stupid things too.

You shouldn't get mad at them. You've been through it yourself, you ought to know that there's always a reason behind this and not just attention seeking.

Even if it seems to be that way, no one (unless they are a true masochist) harms themself for no reason.

I used to harm myself from when I was 13 all the way to being 19, with periods where I managed to stop inbetween. I've now not harmed for 3 years but I never get angry at others who do it because I know that something must be troubling them.

I'm not autistic, just so you know :)

& yeah I always hid it, only some of my closest friends knew..