Is it normal to get angry at my boyfriend for being such a mummies boy

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Long story short! My bf and I have been together for almost a year and his mum is the most judgemental person on earth! I met her once and that was it! She says I'm not good enough, not rich enough, not pretty enough and I'm a horrible person. my boyfriend lives with my family and I, but about once a week his mum will ask him to come home to stay the night, most of the time to help sort out his little brother because he has been acting out. This annoys the crap out of me!!! He will go home to help his mum sort out his brother.. I see this as her using him as a father nd to sort out her problems! Just so your clear on the situation, my bf had an accident a year ago and has had lots of medical attention and now suffers from a brain injury which affects his short term memory, learning skills and a few other minor things. Before his accident he didn't talk to his mum because shes just a horrible person and he stayed with his dad. Since the accident not only me but his friends have said that she's has brainwashed him into a different person! We try and bring this to his attention but he doesn't see it! Overall I want him to permantly live with me but I hate him going to spend the night at his mums! I think when you live somewhere that's where you should sleep because its your home.. I'm not saying he can't go visit but he doesn't have to spend the night there and sort out his mums problems! I also feel like him going there once a week is like he doesn't want to commit to living at my house. His mum is causing so much drama I'm getting to the point of ending the relationship if he doesn't man up!. His mum even sent me msgs saying its war between her and I! I knoww she's his mum but she's is doing him no good! PLEASE HELP! :-(

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I don't know how to feel about this. It seems to me that you are trying to brainwash your boyfriend too. He should be the one to decide if he wants his mother getting involve in his life or not. And in your story there's no hint that your boyfriend is annoyed by the situation. If you don't like going there you should just stay home and he goes there alone. It's his mother!!! If you are constantly being in competition with his mum there's no way the situation will get better.

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  • KacyWatson
    3 years ago

    Your boyfriend should be allowed to be a mummy's boy. He loves his mum. You should be happy with that.

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  • MeNtAlLaDy
    11 years ago

    His mother is pretty rude. Sit down and talk with your boyfriend and talk it out without distractions and tell what his mom says to u

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    A mans mother will often hate his partner.

    She sees you as replacing her.

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  • flowergirl87
    11 years ago

    It does seem like there's a bit of a 'war' emerging. You sound angry and so please be careful that you don't end up just acting in frustration and anger and probably becoming a hypocrite in all this. It's not so bad that he stays at his mum's, although, weekly is very frequent. But the fact that she's sent these messages is disturbing... and very immature. Is she feeling over-protective over her little boy? Because he'll always be that in her eyes to an extent, I'm afraid. She may be having trouble letting him go (however, that's not the way to handle it.) He shouldn't be having to sort out his brother and I can see why you feel his mum might be using this as a convenient excuse in a way. It's also out of order for her to be nasty about you, especially if you haven't done anything wrong. I'd say try and talk to her but doesn't sound like she'd take that very well. Have you spoken to your boyfriend? If not, do!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Have you actually told him how you feel.

    If it is pissing you of so much maybe you should cry havok and let loose the dogs of warrs.

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