Is it normal to fret about a guy 24/7

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Hi,

I met a guy through a matrimonial website.
We met like thrice...and even our families met up....as its arranged marriage it got fixed!
I was v happy as the guy was too sweet n funny...
He msged me for like 4 days romantically...But i always felt that I was the one persuing him more ...
One day i expressed my fear that hes not interested in me and wants to call off the engagement..
The next day he msged me back that we better call off!
I was shocked that he had taken me literally...this happened a month back..
Now i keep msging him on phone to reconsider but hes just not interested.
I spend all my time fretting over what i said and why..and wishing he comes back:(
Is this normal???

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Based on 23 votes (15 yes)
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  • NotStrangeBird
    11 years ago

    The OP is either from West Virginia or Pakistan. I can't tell.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    11 years ago

    Wait so, he messaged you for four days and you only met three times and you guys decide to marry? I don't understand it...

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    • popsy123
      11 years ago

      hii

      yup in arraged marraiges u take like a week to get to know the guy

      in my case the guy called off within a week..just wished i had acted romantic in that short time instaead of apperaing scared and doubtful...

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      • yesnomaybeso
        11 years ago

        oh man that sucks!
        Well then tell your family to find you a better guy a guy you really likeeeeeeeeeeee? can you do that...?

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        • popsy123
          11 years ago

          I liked him a lot!!!
          am unable to get over him though its been a month since we last spoke...

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    • popsy123
      11 years ago

      yes this is arranged marriage and am from India thats how it works here

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  • hootiemomma
    11 years ago

    We all want love and to be cared for. It's normal. And rejection always hurts.

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  • x1frosty16
    11 years ago

    THe problem here is yall didnt give eachother enough time or thought to get to know eachother and leaped to making a life changing desiscion that neither were ready for. He was probably scared shitless and wanted more time for his life and to really know a person for a long time before wanting to marry them. dont feel to bad, you also need to keep looking and wait for the right man and get to know them first before marrying otherwise theirs a good chance you'll end up miserable the rest of your life. Slow down girl...

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    • popsy123
      11 years ago

      hi thnx...

      he was not sacred but excited...
      but ya i was scared as i knew him little....
      But now hes totally not bothered
      and i am the one hurt and feeling betrayed:(

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  • Corleone
    11 years ago

    What country are you from? I think we're both from a completely different culture.

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    • popsy123
      11 years ago

      am from INDIAA

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      • Corleone
        11 years ago

        Well, I know nothing about Indian marriages, so I'm afraid I can't help you on this one. Most people here are either from the US or from Europe

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I think you need to take a step back, and reevaluate where you stand with him as this all sounds really creepy.

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    • popsy123
      11 years ago

      hi..it sounds creepy to u..in our culture its common..we dont date and all like u ppl

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