Is it normal to freak out everytime somone doesn't respond?

You are in full control of yourself. You decide how to react to the actions or inactions of others. You can ignore them or, as it appears you do, you can get all wound up about stuff.

You have absolutely no control over what other people do or don't do. As long as you feel that people should do what you want them to (answer your messages, talk when you want them to etc), you will be forever frustrated.

You can only imagine what is going on with someone else. An unreturned message, or someone no longer online do not necessarily indicate that such has anything to do with you.

You do seem quite angry, which anger might well manifest in your communications with your friends. I for one won't answer to someone who addresses me with unprovoked anger, as might your friends.

I'm not at all having a go at you, but you really need to get some perspective about stuff.

1. Control your reactions to the actions or inactions of others.

2. You have no control over others.

3. You have no idea as to the truth about anything which isn't in the same room as you.

4. Don't get so angry.

i have a similar problem but it's not so severe. when someone doesn't respond to me i think he probably got mad at me for something i said or didn't say or for the time it took me to respond. i have that feeling not only when talking through internet or telephone but even in person. when i say something,even if it's not a question and doesn't need an answer at all, i get very nervous if the person doesn't say anything in return. i feel as if i'm not worthy of their attention or something. i try to suppress that feeling but i've had it since i was very little,i'm not sure where it came from.

Omg I feel the same esact way ... I get frustrared when my bf or friends dont answer my texts and call

I am exactly like that. One of my really good friends just stopped talking to me out of nowhere. A year or so later, a boyfriend did the same. I'm still paranoid about it happening.

It helps when I text a really chatty friend. Even if you aren't best friends with them: just have a random conversation, and then YOU end it. Say that you're going to do something or whatever. It will make you feel a lot better when they don't respond (even if you still kinda want one). It helps.

no this is somewhat normal i am that way about txting the guy im dating but suicidal is a little too far...

Try not to be so needy, even though you may fear abandonment. You may be pushing away your friends & bf with this clinginess, getting the opposite response from what you want from them. I know the more ppl pester me for attention, the more I shut down and avoid them.

Yeah, I'm like you. Did you post something on one of my stories? I think it was you anyway.

It drives me crazy too, but there's only one thing for it. You have to detach yourself from the situation and remind yourself that there are so many other reasons why they aren't replying....and that if your worst fears have come true, then so what? You have to learn not to care so much, or at least keep reminding yourself to not care so much. These things happen all of the time and it's a part of having relationships. Sometimes, when I accept that perhaps they really have gone, it makes me ecstatic when we finally get to talk. Like a friggin puppy heh.

You can't control how people communicate (or don't) with you and trying to do so will just push them away. However, you can learn to control your reactions as PiAnt says. You've got to learn to reason with yourself.

Also, forget your ex. He's a dick. Nah, he's got his dick up his arse lol (thought I would make it a bit more imaginative. Err that's a horrible image. Oh dear what the hell have I done.) That was a very cruel thing to do to you. Try not to rely on people so much to bring you happiness. Direct more of your attention elsewhere and that might help you to move on.