Is it normal to forgive a guy after cheating?

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Hey, I have been in a relationship for 2 months now, which I know isn't a very long time at all but we get on so well that it seems like I've known him years. Infact I've only really known him 4 or 5 months and in which time I've never seen him in a relationship with any other girl so have nothing to compare my situation to! A few weeks ago he told me to go on his facebook to check his mail for him and I noticed a conversation with a girl that was definitely not appropriate for a guy in a relationship to be having, whether just online or not! I spoke to him about it and he apologised profusely and swore never to do it again and that he would never physically cheat on me. I, in a fit of rage added the girl he was facebook mailing's boyfriend, not intending on even speaking to him, my boyfriend was with me when I added him and was with me when he started speakin to me via facebook 'chat'. My partner got very jealous that I was talking to this guy, even considering what he'd done a few weeks previous.

It later came to light that he had been speaking innappripriately to another girl just 4 days before the jealousy he had endured while I had a harmless conversation with a guy I didn't even know. I found out about this other girl AFTER he'd become jealous of the guy I was merely chatting to with the usual 'hi, how are you?' and he swore when I found out, again, that he now knows how it feels to be so upset over something and he never wants to hurt me again and if he ever did he'd end it with me because he wouldn't want to keep treating me this way. He's apologised and been so sweet recently, and I don't think he'll do it again and I'm sure he'd never really cheat on me. Some of my friends think I should break up with him but I honestly believe he won't do it again.

Am I being naive and stupid or should I give him a final chance? or should I just tell him where to go and end it?! Is it normal to forgive a guy after cheating? PLEASE HELP!

Sorry that I wrote an essay! Hope you can help me!

Lily xx

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  • Muffin43
    12 years ago

    Move on. It's not worth it.

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  • akirathefurry
    12 years ago

    I agree with Angel.. fighringfire with fire never works. As for him cheating, me myself i woulld tell him fix up your act or get the hell out

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  • alicewhite
    12 years ago

    If a guy cheats I'm pretty sure forgiving him is like a slap on the wrist even if you get pissed its kind of telling him that you're to addicted or scared to leave him.. all I'm saying sweetie is that its not worth staying with I think it may seem like neither of you may be ready for a serious relationship with one another or other people. You're awesome and you deserve the chance to poke around in the "wonderful world of romance" for a bit longer until you find the right guy who won't even think about doing something dumb like this guy did. I wish you the best Hun and i hope everything pans out well in the end.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    Lily Allen?

    Lol jk. Anyway, do what you want, but I think you should leave him. If he's cheated more than once, most likely he's not going to stop. And it was wrong of him to be jealous if you weren't even flirting with this other man. Good luck to you...

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  • suze1000
    12 years ago

    I can tell you to leave him which you should but you won't listen. the fact you even need to ask this question shows your deluding yourself. Not judging, we all do it in relationships. the only way you'll learn is to make this mistake,and sadly get hurt. Then maybe you will see.

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    Well you know what. You stuck with him this far, I think you should REALLY set yourself to one more time though. Just 1, and don't keep telling yourself "One more, one more, he'll change." If your a smart girl you know that if he does it again he can eff off. I can sort of relate, it's a lame comparison. But when me and my boyfriend got into fights I had this bad habit of calling him names. And he told me to quit that, but I kept doing it. One day he flat out called me a Bi*** And it stung. I realized how much it hurt and I stopped. So I hope your guy does change, but if he doesn't, please get out of that relationship!!

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    You're both wrong.

    He's wrong for cheating
    You are wrong for snooping his FB afterwards

    You are also wrong for revenge naughty chatting with the other man.

    Both of you need to stop playing childish games

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  • Its_Called_Love
    12 years ago

    Leave him, the same happened to me until he eventually left me for another girl after over a year of being together. It will hurt, be just leave him now and it will hurt less then staying with him. Find someone who can love you conpletely. :)

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  • lilksx
    12 years ago

    I really think he is worth it though! :/

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    • lc1988
      12 years ago

      If one of your friend's bf's did this to them, wouldn't you tell her to leave him?

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  • peterrabbyt69
    7 years ago

    Do you swallow?

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  • helpmeonly
    9 years ago

    looks like he will again,I have a gf she does this same stuff flirting and cheating but I just cant seem to leave. id say do it leave him,and find a guy like me who remains loyal,and faithful to his gf,and never lies,and in fact might be to honest. lol

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  • emotionalwreck4ever
    12 years ago

    move on before it happens again and before you get more attached to him . it will be easier to get over him now then later.

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  • chatter289
    12 years ago

    Takt it from me, it's a good thing this has happened now rather than later because if a few d
    Years had gone down the line you would have though your entire relationship would have been full of deceit.

    Now the question is, are you willing to forgive him without being PARANOID and always wondering who he is up too when you are not around? Are you the type of person who will let it go and move on, of not, i say end it right now and move on, it's still the early days. He sounds like a child still to me and well, you need a man not a boy who will throw tantrums and who will try and even of a 'score' even though thee was no score to settle in the firs place. If he does this now, what will make you think he wont later on? If you truly love him and do genuinely believe he can change than give him another go, but after promising to you he won't do it again he did it ly a few days later... He does not sounds very trustworthy to me. If you worry and start getting paranoid now, I don't think it will change any time soon..... Your decision hun,

    Good luck, Aida x

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  • TareBear20
    12 years ago

    Two wrongs don't make a right. How immature of you to talk to some stranger just to get back at him. Just saying..

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