Is it normal to find yourself attractive?

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Hey :) I'm a 19 year old girl, 130 lbs , 5'6, long, brown, very lightly curly hair with very pale skin. When I was about 13-14, I had puberty full on and headfirst. I didn't have much confidence, but wasn't particularly shy either. Like the majority of pubescent girls do, I put on weight, got acne and (for some reason) cut my hair really short.
Now i'm taller, slimmer, slightly toned, with clearer skin and long hair. These are all things I really like about myself, and I like the way I look. I see other girls criticising themselves and complaining about their weight when I think they look fine.
I don't want to be stuck up, I don't think i'm perfect by any stretch, but I do like what's in the mirror (even in bikini wear ;) )
So go on, am I normal?

Yes, totally normal, loads more people should feel this way 34
Yep, normal, but you sound a little stuck up 8
Yes, you're normal, but not typical of people your age 5
No, that is strange 1
No, I bet you're really unattractive 2
No, WTF are you talking about???? 1
People should not feel good about the way they look 2
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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    gross, attractive confident people

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Its good to think and feel good about yourself.

    I always found it annoying when girls complain about themselves.

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  • plainsight90
    9 years ago

    Confident girl, you the real MVP.

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  • ChaoticBunny
    9 years ago

    I'm glad your happy with yourself. I wish I had more confidence. It's always good to feel good and comfortable about yourself and for who you are inside as well. I wish more people could be like that :-)

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Bitch, you ain't got nuffin' on moi -Flex-

    That said, I always found it pointless to describe your appearance such as hair style or color and so on...You can have those things and be ugly or attractive, a picture would be better if you want people to know what you look like.

    On a serious note, yes, it's fine. Society is ridiculous in how its filled with people that will say "gain confidence" to the people with no confidence, then they'll look down on those that are confident and like their appearance.

    I wasn't too much of a good looking kid, but luckily with age I have improved...A lot.

    I suppose aslong as it doesn't become a bit too much to the point you're looking in the mirror and like what you see so much that you can spend, literally, an hour or more staring at yourself, which sadly has become the case for me.

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    • Aroura77
      9 years ago

      Point taken about the photo thing, but a) I don't want to post pics of myself to the internet for anyone to see and b) I tried to attach a pic to a different post and it didn't work :(
      Haha, I've never spent an hour in front of the mirror though, maybe 10 mins tops :)

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        I understand, it is an anonymous site afterall. The pic option doesn't work for me either, so i just upload it to imgur and then post the link

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  • Crusades
    9 years ago

    Pics or Gtfo

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  • SilencedNephilim
    9 years ago

    Personality > Physical features.

    The golden apple can be rotten.

    Being attractive gets the attention, personality gets the heart.

    *At least for me*

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    • Aroura77
      9 years ago

      I completely agree, and that's my personal feeling on the matter, but moving from an all-girls school to an all-boys school, and then a male dominated university. The common trend (at least in the small part of England that I've observed) is that attractivity, while not the only important feature of a person, seems to be judged far more heavily in male society at the cost of personality. A large number of boys my age they actually tend to Socially ideolise attractive girls with little correlation to their personalities. I'm sincerely hoping that this changes with age and maturity, but for the meanwhile the disheartening truth is that attractivity is a hugely important part of a woman's status in the small society in which I live. There does, however seem to be a correlation of praise towards a certain male personality type. Those who proud, brave, arrogant, rich, decently intelligent (not to the n^th degree, but above the population average), confident and funny (by funny I mean makes a lot of jokes, but does not necessarily mean funny for people to listen to). The only real physical attributes that come into play when determining a boy's status are height (I'm not quite sure why?) and musculature (again, this does not really increase the attractivity to girls particularly having spoken to them, but rather satisfies a male-minded ideal)
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      All this said, I don't really agree that this system makes much sense, but back to the main point,
      for some reason, all of this has made me conclude that I am comfortable with my looks, not from a huge popularity, nor from other people telling me, but mainly from growing up and learning acceptance for my flaws. I definitely find it better being comfortable with myself than being very intensely critical of myself in an endless quest to be physically perfect as some other, sometimes more ideolised girls are, but each to their own, they seem happy enough :)

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  • alextsang08
    9 years ago

    I smell narcissistic

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    • Aroura77
      9 years ago

      Haha, I did wonder, so I took a standardised narcissism test. No, I'm not :)

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