Is it normal to find that hating an ex hurts more than missing her?

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I've been thinking of my ex alot recently, and I can't get my mind off of how much she hurt me. She didn't cheat on me (I hope), sort of emotionally cheated. And then went straight into dating the guys she said were just friends. I think. I'm vague on the details, but she was definately flirting too forwardly and acting very immature. She acted stupid but she didn't do anything terrible. It's been over a year and a half, and I don't feel sad over it. I feel angry. Really angry. And I don't want this. I want to remember her as a positive memory.
is it normal to think hating her hurts more than missing her?

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Based on 68 votes (49 yes)
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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    the answer is simple... it hurts more to hate than to just miss because.... it's a very strong emotion.

    and sometimes when it comes to such strong emotions, love and hate are not so opposite as you might think.

    or rather - you loved her a lot. so all of those strong feelings are twisting in your belly now, knowing that she didn't care as much as you did. and that it's not hate perhaps you're feeling but... betrayed love.

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  • jocyjocy20
    11 years ago

    forgive and move forward, you will feel so much relief :)

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  • Aewe101
    11 years ago

    Just tell her " I five give you for fucking me over" than move on with your life and find someone new,

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  • shakalaka
    11 years ago

    Just forgive her, then you will forget her. Hate is not the opposite of love. When you feel nothing for her, even if you look at her or hear from her, that is the opposite of love.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    you sound lonely, get out more and meet prospective girlfriends, i think it will help you will forget her then

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  • mrfundemental
    11 years ago

    It's good to remember someone in a positive light. However in this case, I think it would really serve you better to recall the qualities about her that were completely incompatable with yours and what made you not feel as great. The reason being is because you are still not over her, thinking about all the ways she is great is really only going to fuse your feelings forward more toward caring about it and not allowing yourself to grow from the experience. If you take the time to you realize the ways in which she didn't result in measuring up to what you deserve, you will get her off that pedistole in your mind, and see her for who she really is. Once you have that done, she will become equal to you or maybe a person like everyone else, someone with faults that you don't idealize. Eventually you will see this behavoir and forgive her. Forgive her in a, I don't care anymore because I deserve better and no longer wish to attract people like you, kind-of-way. But have no ill feelings towards her because she is just average and we all amke mistakes.

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  • solidman
    11 years ago

    you need to hang out more with the people who really care about you find someone else who likes you the same way you like her. and keep doing stuf you like with people you ike dont see other people live there lives just live your own life.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Try just not giving a shit either way and fucking someone else. It works surprisingly well.

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