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Angry men arouse me. If a guy can't control his anger then I find that really hot and if he's yelling(not at me) or threatening to become violent(not with me).
Also serial killers in films give me a lady boner XD
Almost every woman goes through this stage. Basically, you're going to snap out of this once you date an abusive guy who is violent, controlling, and treats you just as badly as he treats everyone else.
No she ain't. Just cause you got knocked around by your man doesn't mean she will. Also, and then all
Of a sudden she is going to stop getting dripping wet from dangerous sometimes violent men??
Women love dangerous men because it is natures only reason for you to be here is to breed offspring. Being a Dangerous sometimes violent man tells a woman that you most likely are alpha and the prime choice to fertilize her eggs.
1. There's a difference between a confident man and needlessly violent man. Women are attracted to confidence, strength, bravery, and more. Though it's hard to differentiate between the two when we're young and inexperience, because violence is flashy and in our face, while confidence is more subtle. Some women figure it out, some don't.
2. Violent men have false confidence and very insecure; they only feel powerful when abusing the weak, especially with someone who they can control, like a spouse or significant other.
3. Pretending to be tough by hurting others may have worked flawlessly centuries go, where the only purpose in life was to hunt, gather, and reproduce; we've grown passed that by a hell of a lot. Thanks to psychology and more, we can identify and understand that violence just leads to more violence, no one is safe.
4. Humans have free will. We change our minds often, whether it's instinct or not, especially if it hurts us. Pain isn't the best teacher, but it gets the job done; so yeah, I'm sure if she does "instinctively" choose to date a violent man so she can fulfill that burning desire to fertilize her egg(s), he will hit her, and she will learn her lesson.... or not.
5. There are different forms of abuse, not just physical. She doesn't have to be, "knocked around," to feel pain. Also, yeah I get it, you think I was beaten by an ex boyfriend or something, but I wasn't; sadly, I know women who have been.
6. Lastly, telling a girl to date an abusive guy for rough sex is stupid; really stupid. A man doesn't need to be the kind of asswipe the OP wants to date to have kinky sex, just find a sensible guy who likes it rough.
If you made it this far without immediately stopping to wrote an angry reply or closing out this topic, congrats. Just be happy I'm actually trying to warn this girl.
Turns me off, very quickly.
It's one thing to be able to stand up for yourself when people are trying to intimidate you (that's a very attractive trait in both men and women).
However, I cannot even platonically tolerate manchildren who go from 0-60 over something trivial and get violent. The older the man is, the increasingly more embarrassing it becomes to watch him act like that.
Just because that's what turns you on doesn't mean it's safe for you to be around such people, and definitely not safe to be around serial killers! I've been attracted to and involved with both men and women who turned out later to be violent to me and/or others, but that soon killed the attraction stone dead.
I hope you grow out of this soon, before any harm comes to you: if not I think you should seek therapy, because this attraction could very well put you in extreme danger, even to the life-threatening stage.
Never said I was jumping in bed with a serial killer. I'm not dumb. My question is 'is it normal to find them attractive/arousing?' I get very turned on by these sorts of guys, but thats just a craving. I can be subjective/objective. I know what's bad for me. I don't follow through on these desires.
I agree with Tealights. Growing up, I used to not understand why girls I went to school with only wanted to hook up with the wannabe gangsters and bullies, but the answer is obvious now.
It all boils down to women being attracted to power, and while some men obtain an aura of power through increasing their wealth and reputation, other men take the easier route of bullying and dominating their fellow men to appear powerful. That's why the nerdy, studious types don't get any girls in school. They have a plan for the future where they'll be powerful, but at the present time they have no power. Young girls want bullies and assholes because although these guys will be losers in 10-20 years, their violent personalities emanate power at the present time, and these girls haven't looked far enough ahead into the future to care about anything other than the present.
Once their future becomes present, and all their relationships crumble to pieces due to their SO's domestic abuse, drug abuse, inability to keep a job, or jail time, they get past this long phase of only dating bad boys and come crawling to some beta male who took the hard route and may finally get to lose his virginity at the ripe age of 30, if he hadn't already gone to a hooker and sworn off women before then.
First off I don't equate being dangerous/violent with being flat out mean. I'm talking about guys who don't always know how to handle their anger/ that are a bit emotionally unstable, which includes being overly sensitive. I don't want a "bully" or an "asshole". I am simply turned on by someone who is uncontrollable. Also I said "threatening to become violent" not being violent.
The only time I find actual violence arousing is when there are killings in a movie. And I know that's weird but I also know it's fake so there's no real harm being done.
Also I have a brain. I wouldn't hope in bed with a serial killer nor would I ever intentionally get involved with an abusive man.
I think before I act and my first thought is that OHH MY GOSH I'M SO TURNED ON; FUCK ME, but my second thought Is ...ya, know id seriously never get involved with someone so explosive
The question was simply if my initial attraction towards these me normal or my arousals from these films.
I'm sorry but you have a very stupid and immature viewpoint. "Threatening" to become violent is what precedes actually becoming violent.
Serial killers don't walk around with shirts that advertise what they are or business cards that they hand out detailing how many prostitutes they have killed.
If you are somehow turned on by violence and don't move away from this compulsion YOU WILL end up with a violent person.
I'm sorry, but you're incapable of comprehension. I literally said in my post that I would never get involved with someone who is so explosive.
It's basic thought and afterthought.
What I've explained in the initial question was my thought (being sexualy aroused by anger), but in my comment above I explain my afterthought(not finding it attractive). I'm aware of dangerous personality traits and logically would never seek them in a relationship. All violence isnt domestic abuse but that doesn't matter because I'm not talking about my "type of guy".
The point youre trying to make about serial killers not having a brand is stupid. No where did I make it seem as though I could tell from a crowd of men who is and who isn't
Because I've already made it clear that I do not attach myself to men with these traits.
Also n all your outlandish hypotheticals you seem to think I want to DATE this type of guy. I'm gonna put this bluntly; angry guys amongst other things make me wet, make me want sex, make me want to fuck. That does not mean I want to marry or even bang a guy who is angry.
You know what else makes me wet? My boyfriend doesn't have a single angry atom in his body; Nicest guy you'll ever meet. He both attracts and arouse me. Violence only arouses me. Do ya see the difference now?
It isn't a " compulsion " because compulsions aren't controllable and I have plenty of control over who's dick I hop on when I'm horny. But thanks for your "concern".
goodbye!
Do you get actually wet and sexually stimulated when watching a violent scene in a movie or just turned on???