Is it normal to find a girl super hot?

I'm straight but I think inside my friends is super hot! Is it normal to think about this?

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Based on 289 votes (266 yes)
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  • A-Hor

    I'm a human sexuality teacher.

    Yes, these feelings are completely normal. There's 4 major parts to sexuality:
    Sex, Gender, Expression, and OBI.

    Sex = Your biology. (Male, Female, Intersex, Other)
    Gender = Your mind. (Man, Woman, Genderqueer, No label, etc)
    Expression = Your appearance. (Masculine, Feminine, Androgynous, Genderqueer, etc)
    OBI = Orientation, Behavior, Identity

    Orientation = Your attractions in your mind - whether they be for other humans, objects, or fantasies
    Behavior = The physical behavior you choose.
    Identity = What are comfortable calling yourself? (Straight, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, Queer, Questioning, Asexual, Polysexual, Pansexual, etc etc etc - there's hundreds of labels.)

    Using myself as an example, I am male, and I could be having sex with a women. That is my behavior. But what if in my head, while having sex, I'm thinking of a man? That's the difference between Orientation and Behavior. And there is no formula for what makes a person gay or straight, it's whatever *I* define myself as. It doesn't matter if my identity matches the definition of what someone else feels is a different definition when it comes to *my* sexuality. For example, even though I'm male, if I want to identify as a lesbian, what wrong with that? If that's what I'm comfortable calling myself, why should anyone else's opinion matter? You can define sexuality. It's just not possible. It's like trying to define "freedom" or "love". It's a person-by-person experience, not something you can universally define.

    With your attractions, they can be broken down into even more categories.
    -Sexual
    -Emotional
    -Affectional
    -Relational
    -Romantic

    When you believe that a girl is super hot, that doesn't immediately mean it's a sexual attraction. Society has made us believe that any feeling we have regarding beauty to men or women is sexual. I have many attractions to my girl friends- that doesn't mean they are all sexual. People who usually can't "appreciate" the beauty in people of the same sex are insecure with their own gender roles. They get scared they are not masculine if male, or feminine if female. But ask yourself, who created these gender roles? The bible? Some might say that. But where does it say, "Thou shalt not wear pink if born a man"? The reality is humans- mainly MEN- created the gender norms.

    Bottom line, don't spend too much time trying to give yourself a label, and ask if it's normal to feel attractions towards other humans. Of course we do! We're all homo-sapien sapiens, and there's over 7 billion of us on earth. You just let your freak-flag fly sweetheart. And disregard what any haters have to say about your identity.

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    • dom180

      So so so much truth here.

      More people need to understand this. People want to believe sexuality is as simple as one group of people who are men and have all the masculine traits and one group of people who are women and have all the feminine traits, but it isn't. It just isn't.

      EDIT: Keep doing your awesome job.

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      • A-Hor

        Thank you. And yes, I love my job.

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  • tehfoxyfire

    Females are beautiful, there are alot of gorgeous women ot there, with males it's a little bit different due to their less being focused on looks outer beauty

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    • 1000yrVampireKing

      Men are meant to be strong and women are meant to be pretty and compassionate. Like the male peacock has the prettiest feathers. This is how most species are designed. One creature is meant to attract and the other is meant to chase and claim one. That is the destiny and why girls have so much more pressure to look pretty. No matter how much you dress it up. That is always how it will be. The underling reasons will always be here.

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      • SuperBenzid

        I think what you are saying is true for our society as it currently is but that wasn't always true. In western European cultures in the middle ages for example it was considered the women who were sexually minded and chased after men. It was almost the opposite of today. In most historical cultures men were seen as the more beautiful one. All I am saying is that our cultures program us on how to think to some degree and we should be careful not to put things down to biology that could be put down to culture.

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        • 1000yrVampireKing

          Well if you look at evidence of people before that it does. Hunter gathers says that women use to gather fruit and men use to hunt for meat. So that is the basic beginning. Also Please explain why women are not designed stronger. Granted a lot of women are strong but the strongest woman is still not big and bad enough to surpass the strongest man. Why are ladies so pretty? Why does it seem harder for a man to get a lady and ladies just pat those eye lashes. I think you have it backwards. It is physically showing us otherwise. I am not being sexist but it seems pretty obvious. Not that a strong female is not great! This goes for all species and ladies just got the position to attract and raise kids.

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          • A-Hor

            I think I can shed some light.

            Yes, we used the concept of hunter-gatherer, but what you didn't answer was "why". When the concept of hunter-gatherer was created by our ancestors, it was because our species believed that women were "missing" something. Just looking at our bodies visually, we didn't understand that some bodies had penises and some had vaginas. We thought that some had penises and these others were "missing" penises. (And obviously these terms for genitalia and sex/gender didn't exist at the time. I'm just using them to explain.)

            This made our ancestors infer that those "missing" something on their bodies were not as strong as those who had something on their bodies. Thus why the people with penises went out to hunt, and those "missing" penises gathered food and stayed away from danger. When you think about it, our ancestors were incredibly smart to make this inference- the only problem is their inference was wrong. We understand today that these people are called males and females, and that a typical male is born with a penis and testicles, and a typical female is born with a vagina and ovaries.

            This division from our ancestors caused differences in our evolution. Men began to have more muscles at birth in their upper body from hunting. But women actually are stronger in men in many ways- just in their lower body. They tend to have stronger legs and their vaginas can stretch to 30 times its original size to give birth to another human being. But our androcentric world doesn't focus on lower body strength. We don't see purpose in leg strength, we see purpose upper body strength because we can lift things.

            Why are women pretty? Some are, and so are some men. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Calling women "pretty" and men "handsome" is something we created for gender norms. But ask yourself, who created gender norms? The reason women are "made to be pretty" is because MEN created the gender norms. Following the same mentality for thousands of years, thinking that men were stronger and that women were weaker, men were the ones that decided what the gender roles were when we became homo-sapien sapien, as with the development of politics, our grasps on religion, even science and medicine. For centuries, women were seen as property to men, and that their job was to be concerned with rearing children and pleasing their husbands- because men made it that way with their power. The did "scientific studies" to "prove" that men were stronger. They used religion to justify any difference between men and women, and they kept their control of women using politics. It wasn't until the previous century when Americans finally started to grasp that the people who believed these gender norms were wrong.

            Even today in movies, magazines, television- all types of media- the ones telling women how to dress, how to shape their bodies, what to do with their hair, make-up, and breasts... it's mostly men. Women are de-humanized in our media and seen as objects to men. They made breasts sexualized parts of the body, which is why in the U.S. men can take their shirts off in public but women can't.

            I know I went on a bit of a rant, but If you get a chance you should read some feminists theory. Simone de Beauvoir is a great french feminist theorist to start with. You might also enjoy some feminists works of Monique Wittig (another French feminist), Kate Bornstein (a well-known writer on gender), and bell hooks (a writer on women's movement as well as african american equality - her name is NOT capitalized). Just give it a try before you stayed convinced that men and women are so different.

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            • 1000yrVampireKing

              If you look at it things are exactly that. Males and females have most of the same organs. If we took out those different organs we would be exactly the same. If you think about it balls are like enlarged clit and a vagina is like a inside out dick. Also you think men are the ones telling women what to do and look like? You are very wrong. The one that tells women what is pretty is other insecure females. Since women are made to compete no matter what so are still held to higher standards as they must drive to find a man before the other women. Any threat the bitches destroy. So the kinder of the gender are made to suffer. It is plain as day. Everything in biology says that women are made to care for children. Biology will also show that men are made to be strong and hunt and protect. I do not care what culture says. That has nothing to do with this biological evidence. Another thing you are missing is women have XX and men have XY and all men started as females at one point in the womb. So yes a lady is a man with out a dick. Men are built to be sturdy and women are made to be pretty. I know you want to go by your ideals but I am basing this off biology.

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  • "I think inside my friends is super hot!"

    Well how on earth did you get in there?

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    • disthing

      Endoscope and lube.

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  • ucipher8

    I don't mind expressing what i find to be attractive for my own sex as a straight orientation. John Stamos, Ryan Gosling and Joseph Gordon Levitt.

    And then scarjo, mandymoore, zoe kravitz, and denzel washing tons daughter, and native american bred women (ugh!)

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  • manii92

    Normal.. I think my best friend is hot and I tell her!!.. I'm female.. It doesn't mean I wanna fuck her or anything.. If I did that would be gay..

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  • Terence_the_viking

    I'm not really sure what you are asking here?

    Does it hurt when you type?

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  • allstar_hero12

    Seems normal to me

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  • Ifidieyoung

    If you're a girl, yes it's very normal. You don't have to be bi or lez to think someone is hot. The only time in that situation that you may be bi or lez is if you get turned on by the girl.

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    • So it's only normal to think your same gender are attractive if you are female, yet just crazy if a guy thinks it about male friends?

      Ugh. People say I am sexist.

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      • VioletTrees

        Homophobia works in mysterious ways. D:

        But yeah, this sort of shit is a way that gender roles negatively affect men. The pressure on men not to do things that come across as feminine or gay is kind of bizarre.

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      • Energy

        I disagree. I'm a straight male and I find some men very attractive.

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        • Same. I am heterosexual and think there are amazingly attractive men.

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      • Fammer3

        Well it has prolly got to do with the instincts of mankind. Back when we were cavemen, our true instincts were formed. Eg; The fact we like boobs is cuz they produce the milk we get fed. And considering this is the mothers job, its only natural for any kind of person to have affinity towards women. The men were the hunters, the women were at home with the family. This might seem kinda weird, but the human(ape)-kind has been around for about 2.2 million years. Thats enough time to develop such feelings, don't you think?

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        • disthing

          2.2 million years? More like around 200,000 years. Prior to that we weren't yet homo sapiens.

          Also ItDuz's point was that Ifidieyoung's first statement implied it's normal for a girl to find another girl 'super hot', but abnormal for a guy to find another guy 'super hot'. What have mammary glands and cave-people got to do with that? Why is it "only natural for any kind of person to have affinity towards women" and not 'only natural' for any kind of person to have affinity towards men? Boobs?!

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          • Fammer3

            The answer to your question is in my comment above. And 2.2 million years is long enough to form the primal instincts, homo sapiens or not.

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            • disthing

              No it's not, you don't answer why it isn't natural for any kind of person to have affinity towards men? Just because they don't produce milk? Because it seems ridiculous to me to suggest the primary reason a woman might find another woman beautiful is because they have boobs. I think your theories about our underlying instinctive motivations are dubious.

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  • anh

    I'd say it's normal. And if you're a girl, thinking that your friend who is a girl is hot doesn't make you gay.

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  • MiaScar.

    Youre probably bi. Or lesbian.

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  • mysterymen3000

    Wait are you a boy or a girl? If girl you are gay. If by you are normal

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  • Retard73

    Fagot

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    • chewy

      You spelled faggot wrong.

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      • Saycheese

        I think his name explains it. ha

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