Is it normal to feel you're life is never going to get better?

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A while back, I posted whether it was normal to give up on relationships or not. The consensus was kinda mixed. Aside from my lack of success in that department, my work life, social life, even my connections to family and friends is fading.

I see my friends maybe once a month, and this is with me calling quite often or messaging them on facebook. I'd like to see my family more, but some of them have moved to far while the others just can't find any time for me.

Relationships are non-existent. I'm late 20's and haven't been in a committed relationship since I was a teenager. I look to my future now, and I see some hollow, husk of a person, living in a garbage apartment working a job he hates and never going anywhere.

It's sad, but I really depend on a connection with people to keep myself motivated to do anything. As they fade away, so to does my drive to improve my life, to find someone to love, or to aspire for any goals.

Depression for me, has hit before. I won the last battle, but I've been feeling similar emotions again as of late. I get the feeling if it does sink in again, I'm not going to win this time. I don't feel like I'm a threat to myself right now. But i don't want this life i see in front of me, and i have no idea how to change it.

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  • EndlessSuffering
    11 years ago

    Everything changes with time.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    It won't if you don't actively do something. What do you like doing? What are you passionate about?

    I firmly believe that everyone is created with gifts; something they do extremely well (and you're no exception) Find that, build a vision around it, and it'll give you hope.

    Listen to me. A vision can sustain you. Warm yourself by the fire of your ambitions.

    And don't listen to the negative nancys who try to trample your dreams. They know nothing.

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  • Seustewart
    11 years ago

    Give it to God my friend, give it to God.

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    • MsWVgal
      11 years ago

      This. When i started playing in the band at church, it got me to meet new people. Plus religion is a great comfort (whether you believe in a god or not, I think you'd agree) and you might try finding a church where you can learn faith. But you are going to have to take the incentive.

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      • Seustewart
        11 years ago

        Are you sure you're responding to the correct person?

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        • MsWVgal
          11 years ago

          Sorry, I'm agreeing with you, but also adding my own input for th OP. I should've formatted better O:-)

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Don't give up challenge again.

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  • noid
    11 years ago

    Maybe move somewhere new and build a new world for yourself. That is my plan to get myself out of a bad situation.

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    Things can only get better
    Can only get, can only get
    They get on from here
    You know, I know that
    Things can only get better

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    Do something you care about, even if it's just a hobby to do in your spare time. Find something important to you, something that makes you excited to do it, something that makes you want to wake up in the morning. For me it's my art, the drive to create and spread my message has kept me going through a lot of shit these past few years.

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  • q25t
    11 years ago

    Find a hobby or something social that you can occupy your time with. Any kind of social group will do but find some people that you share ideas, interests, and goals with. If you tell someone, you'll be more motivated to work on it in case they ask.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Try and get new friends.

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  • boston12
    11 years ago

    not with that attitude

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