Is it normal to feel weird opening up to my girlfriend about anxiety?

I suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. It's taken a great toll on my mental stability. I met a girl (a girl who I've been with for quite awhile, past the infatuation phase), who, I believe, truly understands me. She tells me she wishes I would be more open with her, but many times I can't bring myself to do it because I fear what she'll think of me or that she'll leave me. Bottling it up however, causes much distress as well. I was just wondering if you all think it's normal to be uncomfortable confiding in your romantic partner?

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  • Am1365q

    Just look at it this way, if you tell her this and she leaves you than is she really the woman you want to be with? Yes its normal to feel nervous and uncomfortable confiding things with you partner but if you want a healthy relationship you need to.

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  • Dustyair

    Normal.

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  • YepItsNormal

    Anxiety can go away, but you have to want it to. You see, it first starts with understanding it's like a puzzle, you've been told to complete it, you're expected to, there's a deadline, but... there's pieces missing.. but no time for that, I have to finish this puzzle. I'll find them later maybe, let me keep going. It's really knowing you're going to end up in a situation you're not totally ready for and then looking at yourself wondering why you didn't stop and figure it out. The word self conscious applies. Self conscious means just that. Aware of self. you're trying to tell her, you aren't sure what you to say, you pause, the pause is long, you notice, you try to speak now and you're going fast because you wanted to fix the pause, and now you're aware of that. you don't know what to do... The real trick is realize examining yourself, every move, every step, everything you do, say, inflection, glance and gesture is PERFECT as long as it's from YOU. Not from you trying to control you. Just imagine, if you couldn't see yourself, you'd just start saying "ok, this puzzle is a dead end project without the other pieces, not wasting my time on this chit. Or you'd go find out to fabricate a piece.

    So is it normal to be anxious to tell your girlfriend about anxiety? that speaks for itself. want to know a real scary thing? some people feel if they lost their illness, anxiety, etc it would mean their identity goes with it. Guess what? Your identity isn't your condition, it doesn't define you. You define you. so start driving that body instead of just observing it and trying to brace for impact or thwart chaos. Now it should make sense. How much more work is it to be anxious than it is to just be you and damn all to help who would rather you be anxious.

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  • KiwiWisdom

    Yes. It's normal to feel uncomfortable about sharing, but you should do it anyway. It's part of understanding each other. Past what is wonderful about each other is what you find flawed,hurt, scared and vulnerable in each other. Having a partner does mean opening up, which sucks because you could get hurt or feel further misunderstood. Doing otherwise though is tantamount to asking them to read your mind - or making it clear you're closed off. The sucky part is they might not even get it at all, but as long as they try to, who cares? Nobody's perfect.

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