Is it normal to feel weird about getting a free thanksgiving meal?

71% Normal
5 Comments

I was contacted out of the blue by someone in my community asking me if I wanted a free Thanksgiving meal food basket from their church.

I felt weird because, "why did they think to ask me?" Do they think I'm really poor, needy and desperate? I almost declined due to feeling strange about it but I accepted because, hey, free food right? I didn't want to be rude either since this person must have put thought into offering it to me.

I haven't used the food they gave me yet. I guess I'll use it for Christmas dinner. I feel weird every time I see that turkey in my freezer.

I got a donation when I was younger from an outreach program for migrant workers and I remember feeling the same way. Just, strange. Are people concerned about me? I don't understand why because I've always managed through bad times without ever asking for help. I don't know how to handle this concern and kindness. Is it normal to not know how to accept gifts and kindness?

Voting Results
71% Normal
Based on 34 votes (24 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 5 )
  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Well churches will sometimes do that and sometimes it is at random. I remember a church that was giving out free stuff to everyone poor or not and basically says whoever comes gets free dinner this holiday! Maybe the church knows someone close to you and your friend felt like giving you there number and so they called you up. I would not put it past a church to do this either since they are known for this kind of thing.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • disfunkshinal
    11 years ago

    You're normal. You don't like taking handouts. It's normal

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • robbieforgotpw
      11 years ago

      Wish more in this country didn't want handouts, but more and more like having other people paying for them. They feel the world owes them a living. Our country's policies have encouraged it.

      Why work when you can freeload?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • jeebley
    11 years ago

    sounds like you should have declined so it could have gone to someone more worthy ya jerk!!!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • disfunkshinal
      11 years ago

      I understand what he's saying. He's not trying to be a jerk.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0