Is it normal to feel weak when people ask why you haven't got a gf/bf?

Ok, this has been bugging me for ages, I need some feedback.

I haven't been in a relationship for about a year now, and the last relationship I had didn't last very long. I should also say I'm quite happy being single. Recently colleagues at work have been asking me why I haven't got a girlfriend. I try to explain to them all sorts, "I'm just not with anyone at the moment" etc. My work colleagues I can deal with - but recently my friends and family have been on to me. I recently bought a golf gti and my friend said to me, "Now that you have a new car you can get a girlfriend". My Mum said to me, "John, you need a girlfriend, why haven't you got one? You can even find them on the internet now". It seems to be getting worse though, a colleague of mine the other day said very loudly in front of all my other work colleagues, "Why don't you have a girlfriend, is it because your gay or because you're so weird no girl will go near you". Everyone was staring at me and I just felt ashamed, and I never feel ashamed for being myself. - I didn't know how to reply. I'm quite a confident guy and I'm usually pretty clutch and tact, but I felt quite bothered by it and dare I say it, quite upset by it. It's like they expect me to admit something really weird about myself or something.

Love to hear your thoughts x

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Comments ( 11 )
  • Ugh this happens to me all the time! I swear at one point my family thought I was a lesbian. And don't get me started on the sympathetic head tilts! Maybe we should start pretending we do have significant others just so they'll get off our backs?

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  • anon77

    To be alone is not the accepted norm, and you as a thinking person will feel "out of place" by being alone.

    The simplest way I have found (45 not married) to explain ,better to be alone and happy then with some one and unhappy.

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  • Tell them it`s none of their damn buiss.

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  • I forgot how easy it is to find someone you'll love and be happy with. It's almost as easy as finding a pin in a haystack.

    People need to mind their own business.

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  • DefinitelyNotNormal89

    How old are you?
    If you are perfectly happy being single you should not worry what anyone in zee world thinks!
    The way I see it is you get one shot at this life, if you don't wanna settle down until you're 30, 40, 50 etc then so be it!

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  • Ellenna

    Maybe they think you're weird because of all that clutch and tact WTF is that?

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  • regisphilbin

    they're just saying that to tease you, don't worry about it.

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  • Omgfuck

    You are just sooooo goodlooking so they dont UNDERSTAND why you dont have a gf.. ;) think positive and enjoy your life, the right girl will come.
    "The best is jet to come"

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  • hotpinklizard

    What you talking bout Willis?! lol! but yea I found it odd that u signed it with a kiss.

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  • Shackleford96

    Say something witty back at them such as: No, I do not need a girlfriend to prove I am straight, but apparently YOU do. Tell them you are searching for the right one or that you just do not need one right now. I don't know :P

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  • bryson_willis

    "It's like they expect me to admit something really weird about myself or something." hmmm..

    you do realise you signed off your post with a kiss. I think your friends are on to something. It's time to come out my friend, it's time...

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