Is it normal to feel very scared of sharing feelings?

this could be asked under fears, but its about having fears about feelings. it seems everyone in my family, everyone i know, we seem to constantly lie to each other. we'll share what we're doing but NEVER discuss how we are really doing, how we are really feeling. nobody i know will admit how they are feeling, even if they are clearly angry, stressed, depressed, etc. i have become very afraid of admitting to others now. i dont even like and avoid talking to people. i just pretend to be okay all the time so i dont cause myself or others problems. i hate lying but the fear seems to be overriding that. is that normal?

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  • aussiewolf

    yeah i had to be that way when i was growing up too. my dad was never sensitive when i was upset, he would just call me a baby and to stop crying and that i was too sensitive so because of that, i have learned to not want to share my feelings with people.
    its really hard to explain to people how you feel when you have had to hold onto it for such a long time and because of that, i find people get confused because they dont understand which frustrates the situation even more. i have found going to see a psychologist helped me because they are trained to listen and figure things out and help you figure things out too but i guess it depends on everyone's circumstances.
    i never talked to my mum about things because i assumed that she was just like my dad but i know now that she isnt. i can talk to her about things but sometimes its just easier to keep it to yourself.
    i hope you figure things out. xx

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  • mizeka

    I don't tell about my real feelings either. I normally pretend to be okay, but there have been times when I have told everything (excluding the worst parts) that is wrong with my life to someone in my family, usually my mother.

    Not sure if it's normal though.

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  • Hoodoo

    Not all families are created the same. A lot of it could be genetics which can create both similarities and dissimilarities in families. You need to find people more like you outside of your family. You don't have to abandon your family but nor do you have to abandon "you". Accept people for what they are. Basic personalities do not change.

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  • WantLove13

    I don't really like sharing my feelings either, because If i do, I end up crying. pretty lame huh? But when I do share them, I somehow feel lighter. once you let your feelings out, people will open up to you. There is no need to fear your feelings. :)

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  • Snakeplisken

    I share my feelings with people Ive only just met hahaha, but I can't do it with my mum or dad because ive never really liked them. My dad is mean and unsupportive, and my mum is a moron and an alcoholic. So yeah... Normal...

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  • q.uarter

    I have the same problem too... like I'm embarrassed or something, and I wish I could be really open with my parents but I only can be when I really NEED some advice. I guess practice is really the only way - whether it's with friends or a professional, you need to learn that people aren't judging you (at least that's what I think people are doing to me). Even if it's online or something.... lots of people share your problems :) one of my favourite things about the internet is that you can Google pretty much anything and someone has already said something about it, somewhere. You're not alone :) everyone worries so just try and open up a bit, you can't bear all your problems alone.

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  • iv had the same problem all my life well i wouldnt see it as a problem i never share my feelings but then again my pride is really high so i tell myself shut up dont be as pathetic as everyone else trying to get attention from these feelings.
    i ask other people what they are feeling like but its not really because i care its because i just want to know and most of the time its because of pathetic reasons

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  • xino00

    normal...but you should share your problems with someone who cares about you.

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  • dappled

    I think it's normal to hide these kinds of feelings.

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  • Bleach2476

    Sorry, but I can't tell if you live with your parent or not.

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  • Bleach2476

    You can't pretend to be okay all the time! It's very unhealthy! Don't you have some way to get away? You know-move out?

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