Is it normal to feel very attractive yet no one seems interested?

I am not conceited but generally I believe myself to be pretty good looking. (I am 46 years old, male). I have a six pack, muscles, V- shape, good facial features, I am 6'3". Very blue eyes, athletic, very funny and well educated...have a good job....when I see pictures of myself ...I look real good ...skin is young looking, etc...yet, when I go out no woman seems to even notice me..I literally feel invisible..if I talk to them they seem uninterested...I am not boring or dull.

Is it possible to be attractive but no one seems interested.?

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  • Anuta182

    Hm.. Maybe you over-doing it? Sometimes it can scare people away. Try one night to go out without putting too much effort. Dress casually, dont show off too much of your muscles. Also try to notice how you come across to others. Honestly speaking, if no one comes up to you before you even manage to speak to show off your personality, then it must be something visually that put people off. Maybe body language, facial expression, how you are behaving around other people. You could try to go out with someone you trust and would listen to their opinion. And then after a night out ask if they noticed anything that you do that might be the problem. I used to not know why no one ever comes up to me to talk in clubs or bars.. Literally no one! And then one night some brave stranger came up to me and said: smile! Dont look so serious. ... I thought to myself..omg.. I must look like the least fun person in the club. Then i just danced and smiled and people started to walk up to me. So maybe your problem is just as easily solvable! Good luck!

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  • BlackLipstick25

    i feel that way, but i'm a girl so it's different for all of us, maybe it's just because girls will look at you as nothing but a player even though your not, but, I really don't know...lol >•<

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  • Hellohahaha

    if you were good looking women would be interested. I know so many men who are totally conceited with their appearance.

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  • karmasAbich

    That's because theyre just too pussy to ask you out don't listen to the other Bitches that think they knowtheyre all over thinking shit cause they think they are smart Hahaha like seriously look at these comments. If your attractive then the people would be way too intimidated to talk to you. I was told by a really shy girl who decided to say two things to me.
    1) your intimidating
    Me.. "why'
    2nd thing said by her.. because your really hot

    End of story.

    Your fucking sexy as hell. Don't listen to the haters

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  • seabird_71

    Maybe you are only looking for the attention of women who are interested in someone different?

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  • ArticBreakup

    What's your hair color? My aunt is an extremely attractive blonde woman in her thirties who recently married a man of similar description to you. He has gray hair but dyes it black. My aunt only started dating him because he didn't have gray hair. It's not exactly vanity or judgement, often women older than their twenties find that a man with gray hair reminds them of how old they are, and therefore they won't approach or date them.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    the problem with being "attractive" is that it's not just based on looks. women also want men who attract their hearts not just their bodies.

    perhaps you should talk to a friend to see where you're going wrong.

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