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I have been here for what seems like forever. I feel useless now. I've lost my caring spirit. I dont comment much anymore because i cannot think of anything to say. This goes for the rest of my life too. I just hope that in the past, I did help someone.
Is it normal to stop caring about helping?
Let's be optimistic for a minute okay?
A lot of people still needs you mature and wise people. Don't give up. Time will come when people will come here and we won't feel useless again...
I guess the management should do more renovations. noh?
A lamp is needed most when it's darkest. Keep posting; influence THEM. Stop letting them influence you.
And cheer up. Everything will be ok.
Stick around a little while longer, tori. Just in case it's temporary. I've recently seen you voted down just for common sense. It's nothing to do with your common sense, it's to do with the lack of common sense of the people who voted you down. It's like a schoolyard at the moment, where everyone gets picked on, because the people picking are so insecure about their place in the scheme of things, they think the way to improve their lot is to bring others down. I know you're much too nice to use your intelligence to crush them. We all are. I bite my tongue a dozen times a day here. I feel exactly the same as you. I just think we need to ride it out for a bit.
Even if you don't post, don't leave us. Stick around, see how it goes.
There are newbies I like. Its just somedays I wonder where the mentality is of alot of people. I was raised to care. I guess I am an idealist and dont comprehend meaness, arrogance...etc...
I didnt live this long and not learn anything.
It reminds me of when my kids were 12 and knew everything. They sing a different song now.
ya its normal. But you should comment and still giv advise. You might just might make differnce.
There's been a power shift in recent months away from the people who want to help, and towards the people who just want to post something stupid, ignorant, and genuinely of no use (and not even funny, either). I often feel quite alone here because many of the people I like the most don't post very often now. At least three times in the last week, I've wondered what I'm still doing here and whether my comments are actually helpful any more (I've become more sarcastic, I think, because of the environment and my frustration).
Someone made an interesting point about it coinciding with school breaks. I'm going to sit it out and see what happens but if I continue to feel disappointed in myself, and I can't help here, or feel motivated to help, there's no point staying.
In short, I know how you feel.
Dappled if it makes you feel any better I've always found your comments on all the stories to be very helpful and enlightening. Stick around a bit longer, this site needs supportive people like you.
Well, thank you. Although I don't think I've been much use to you personally. I read your stories and see what you're going through and I always feel like I don't have anything enlightening to say. I've started replying to your stories at least four times and have deleted them without posting, hoping someone else would find a way of saying it that I don't seem able to.
It's alright, I've found that certain situations are really hard to give advice on, especially if it's something that hasn't been experienced yet. But I do know from reading your posts on other stories you've helped a lot of people. So kudos to you my friend, at least you and some others put forth an effort.
The problem with your situation is that I've been in it, couldn't find a way to turn it into a relationship, and it caused me pain pretty much all the time. It's painful to remember it and painful that someone else is going through it. Even more so because I have no advice. If I knew how to solve it, I'd have done it for myself.
You know, I was pretty sure you posted this one. And I totally agree, it's just not the same here anymore; I thought it was just me, but looks like it's not and others are noticing it too. Time to find a new hangout, perhaps?
Oh I will, don't worry. Actually the people here were one of the main reasons I actually posted; now a lot of the good ones are either gone or almost never post anymore. It'd be nice to stay in touch, I'll try to think of something. And as things fell apart, nobody paid much attention.
I got it wrong too. I thought it was wigsplitz. But it looks like it's tori. That makes me all the sadder. I thought it was just me and the OP; now suddenly it's four of us. ItDuz doesn't post much any more either, and randomjelly is completely AWOL. I see Danny once in a while and the same for howaminotmyself and thisissomuchfun. MissSorel doesn't post much and I've even lost track of devilla, who I had so much fun with. I barely see Aussiewolf here, either, but luckily she's in chat now and again.
I like many of the new people, but I don't have a shared history with them (yet). Things just seem different. I'm honestly hoping it's seasonal. I think it was howaminotmyself who suggested it, and I'm going to put some faith in her wisdom on this one.
I am useless in all aspects of life but I have not had the guts to kill myself yet. I try to find a purpose but I know soon ill come to the conclusion its the only option and stop trying to deny it.
I don't read comments anymore because of things that people say and call me. I still care enough to try to help someone with a legitimate problem, though.
Yeah I can't understand you fully as I haven't been on here too long but all I can say is stay...us newbies (well some) aren't that bad and yes they are a good amount of trolls but they will always be around. I'm not sure how the stories were like back then (i make you guys seem so old) but every now and again you can catch a good story. I do know how you feel about you not knowing what to say and not caring but maybe you just need a sotry to spark your life back up again... so if you were to go now you might miss it.
Please don't stop caring. If you are a caring individual, you are helping regardless of how hard you try.
I'm sure you've helped many people. Don't worry. Sometimes people just need a comment. Anything. It doesn't even have to be some kind of words of wisdom, just a comment at least. It lets the people know that you at least bothered to read their post. So yes, you have helped someone.
It doesn't matter how you lived, just as long as you made a difference. I feel for ya man. You seem like someone who cared back then, I know you helped someone.
yeah i understand but occasionally there are still good stories about people who have real problems that i comment on. dont give up, im sure you will start caring again.
If you're reading all the troll posts it's understandable, I never know what to say to those besides "wtf" or "lol" :P