Is it normal to feel unwanted?

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Is it normal that I feel unwanted and how can I make him want me more?
I have been with my boyfriend for a yr in a half, but I've known him for 15 years. We share one year old son together and I use to think we were perfect for each other, but after our son was born 17 weeks early or 4 months and a week early and almost lost him several times he has stopped showing me affection. A little after our son came home i caught him telling another girl he wanted to take her to a hotel. Then he talk to his ex wife saying what I don't know won't kill me. (Talking about cheating). I have talked to him many times about how I felt but all I get is a empty promise that he will change and show me the type of affection I been craving.
What should I do? Should I leave or keep trying with him?

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Based on 34 votes (23 yes)
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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    Leave. He doesn't care about you or your son.

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      I think OP needs to throw that jerk out of her nest and her life. :-)

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      • dirtybirdy
        10 years ago

        A swift kick in the pecker is in order. Its sad that so many women have such a hard time leaving jerks like that guy, and so many never do :(

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  • moomus
    10 years ago

    Get out while you still have your sanity! My ex was like this and I have 3 kids. I finally told him to leave when the youngest was 5 months. Been on my own nearly 5 years now and it's the best thing I could've done. If I can do it anyone can

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    10 years ago

    Tough one, trust is hard to build once broken..

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  • Kotahater
    10 years ago

    Don't get me wrong when he does interact with his son he's a really good father.

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  • Kotahater
    10 years ago

    Ya I have a gud feeling he has. Since evrything has stopped. They say if he's not getting it from u, he's getting it from someone else.
    I just dnt know how to just go.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I can't see one single reason to stay with this guy. You are not bringing up your son in a healthy environment as it is, so it's probably better you move on.
    I'm sure you know that he will cheat on you when he gets the opportunity, if he hasn't already, so what are you waiting for? Get out with some dignity and get a lawyer so this creep can at least help support his son, if not you, too.

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  • Kotahater
    10 years ago

    And he wonders why I don't trust him when he comes home drunk or when he's texting a new girl and says shes a old friend that was the same thing he said about the girl he wanted to take to a hotel.
    Yes trust is a hard thing to get back but I don't think ill ever trust him again after all he has put me through. I love him to death and wish that he will change but nothing Is happening. He is not proving that he even wants to try anymore.

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  • Kotahater
    10 years ago

    I have had the urge to leave, but I am afraid of being a single mom.
    Even though I already feel it. My son Is one like I said and he has only changed maybe three diapers and fed him about the same. Never puts him to bed and barely plays with him.
    Then goes out to a bar and tells me he's still at work.

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    • Energy
      10 years ago

      Then you're already basically a single mom since that lazy piece of shit doesn't do anything. Leave his sorry useless ass.

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    • dom180
      10 years ago

      Fear of being alone is never a good reason for staying in a relationship that doesn't make you happy. It certainly doesn't sound like you'd be any worse off without him.

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    • kelili
      10 years ago

      This must be very hard, I really hope for you (because obviously you still have some sort of affection for him) and for your son that things will straighten out. I don't know how and I don't have any advice but you'll be in my prayers tonight.

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