Is it normal to feel unable to remove people from your life?

I can definitely understand your getting close to this other girl, even if you haven’t met. But be prepared for your relationship with her to be a problem for a girlfriend, even if you promise not to speak to her in an intimate way. You may have to choose between the LD girl and having local girlfriend.

It's normal. We get attached and it's hard to just remove someone from your life.

The problem is your feelings to this girl; if you had feelings for her in the past, I believe you still have them. Especially when you two are on good terms with each other. The only reason you don't act on them is the distance. And that's why it's unfair to your girlfriend.

If this girl was really just a friend to you, maybe you could have even introduced her to your gf. But maybe she's not. Maybe she means more than that to you. It's really up to you to decide. Are you willing to give up on her for your gf or not?

I had a girl pal not too many years back that was really just like a sister to me. I couldn't look at her in a romantic or sexual way, and she was quite pretty. She could've been a guy and it wouldn't matter. So ask yourself, what is she to you? Is she a romantic interest, or is she just a good friend?

Your girlfriend was feeling threatened or jealous by this other girl you keep talking to and if your girlfriend knew that you two have been communicating longer than your own actual relationship, it can be even worse for her. This is totally normal.

What's not normal, is an online friendship with a girl you have never met, getting in the way of the current relationship you are having with a girl who is right in front of you. I think you're emotionally attached to her. As a person who has been in more than one online LDR (never lasts), I'd like to advise you to let go of it and focus on the people who are right in front of you.

There is a 47 yr old woman that I used to work with. I had the hots for her since day one. She knew about my feelings because I told her. Months went by and she asked me to be her roommate. Well, I moved, then we started a sexual relationship with each other. Things were going good for a while, then she flipped the switch on me. She turned into a total bitch. Always talking down to me, insulting me. All for no reason really. I ended up moving out. Everyone tells me that I should cut my ties with her, but I can't. I still have feelings for her. She and I still talk, but not as often as before. What sucks is that her boyfriend is a regular customer where I work. Like I see this guy everyday. Funny thing is, I actually like the guy too

Do what you need to do bro. If it was me I'd keep contact strictly as a friend and make that very clear. Then see how it goes. Honestly if I was dating a girl that had problems with that it just shows how weak the relationship is.