Is it normal to feel trapped by family?

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Hi there. I was wondering if it is normal to feel trapped by your family, my family and I have never had a good relationship and I have been to rehab for a drug and drinking problem, since returning 9 months ago I have real anger issues towards them for the lack of emotional support since childhood and they continue to be alcoholics and this causes more issues with me and them, I realise the only way out of my situation is to leave home but the only problem is I train dogs for a living and im using their premises as we own 7 acres land and cannot afford to buy my own land just yet. Would maby building my own house at the furtherest point of the yard stop all the conflict and hatred or do you think I would still feel suffocated by them? Any help to this problem would be a huge help.

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    Stay sober. It sounds like you probably developed substance abuse problems to self medicate and not feel emotions regarding your family of origin. Check out the twelve step program Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families http://www.adultchildren.org/ and CoDependents Anonymous http://www.coda.org/. Hang in there, dog training sounds interesting.

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    First off, good job for going to rehab to fix your addiction. Anyways, I think that you should just leave the house but stay on the property so you can still be able to train your dogs. As for food, well just go in the house and get some, but don't let their presence disturb you. I hope that you eventually find a place of your own and become your own person.

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    • MB101
      12 years ago

      Thanks for the advice. I will actually go to my local hardware and check how much it would cost for a room & bathroom then can take it further. Maby if I save enough it will come together.

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      • Anime7
        12 years ago

        Sounds like it could work. Good luck.

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    Buy a big tent and a wicked good sleeping bag and live on the opposite end of the property. Do what ever you have to do to stay sober.

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    • MB101
      12 years ago

      Ha Ha thanks think its easier said than done tho.. . they would kick me out for sure if I done that. Thanks for the advice tho :-)

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      • equanimity
        12 years ago

        Ya, well I still hope you can find a reasonable solution. You should try to get away, even if you have to go for a lot of "walks" outside.

        I'm lucky. If I ever had to live with my parents again, they have a hundred acres of forested land and a small cabin that I could stay in to get some space from them.

        Good luck.

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