Is it normal to feel trapped?

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I'm an 18 year old male. I'm a virgin, and I haven't had a girlfriend. The only girls I ever liked were either taken, or I was beaten to the punch by another guy. I am not a play boy, and I want to have a healthy relationship with a girl who loves me, however I feel that all girls my age only want to piss around and go clubbing and sleep with loads of men, and I don't want that.

I have fallen involuntarily in love with a girl who is possibly getting married to her boyfriend some time in the future. I have known her for two years and she is like no other person I have met. We have admitted to having feelings for each other, but she can't leave her boyfriend because she loves him too. I have tried letting go, but there isn't a single other girl I like, so it's near impossible to not think about her. I feel trapped and unable to enjoy my life, knowing that inevitably one day I must deal with the marriage of her and her partner.

I don't know what to do to find a girl I will love, I don't like clubbing, and that immediately eliminates almost 90% of my age group of girls and it's frustrating to say the least.

Is it normal for me to feel unable to move on and to be trapped in life?

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Based on 65 votes (58 yes)
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  • Crazy-guy
    8 years ago

    I am 21 years old and in a similar situation... A lot of girls throw their selves at me but I just don't give them the pleasure of messing with my cuteness...

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  • •Romeo•
    10 years ago

    You just need to BELIEVE!!!! :) no uh, maybe you expect so much or you are expected too much thats why you feel that way. Yes?

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  • baby.girl
    13 years ago

    Wow that was my least pessimistic thought in a week...

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  • baby.girl
    13 years ago

    Someday your princess will come. Lol as long as you don't end up like me you'll be fine...no I will not elaborate *tear rolls down cheek* just don't become an emo pessimist haha

    Sorry for being so depressing

    And you sound like a great guy...if only all guys were like u...I'm sure you'll find a girl just wait and don't rush things...and who knows? Maybe they won't get married...

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  • iHatemF
    14 years ago

    Don't worry about it, you'll eventually find the girl of your dreams. Keep your eyes peeled!

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  • imjustme
    14 years ago

    when a door closes another door opens, but we are to sad about the door that has closed to see the one that has opened.

    what im trying to say is that keep looking or....not. There is always someone out there for you.

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    you are normal. the best love comes when you aren't looking for it.

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