Is it normal to feel this way while you're in a relationship?

I'm single but my last relationship ended because of me. I didn't do anything wrong but I was unhappy. I was unhappy because I felt like there was something better out there for me. He was a great bf, it was a fun, healthy relationship. Nothing wrong until I started feeling I don't know...bored. Not only did I want to be single but I felt like there was someone else who can offer me what I wanted. So we broke up and planned to keep in touch. So far its okay keeping in touch but I do feel like I'm going to lose my best friend. He was my best friend, he understood me, I felt like I can do and be anything around him, etc. But like I said earlier, in terms of a boyfriend and relationship I felt like there was something better for me. But now that I'm single, I have been talking to guys but I haven't felt that comfort I felt with my ex. Even when those guys have what I like, I'm still not 100 percent me. So I am torn. Do I go back with my ex because it seems like he is the right one for me considering all these guys? or do I move on and hope to find someone like him plus who has what I want? There's just so many people out there that yeah I have a chance to find someone yet there are so many people out there that what if I just never meet another one like him ever again? Right now I feel lonely, sad, depressed, and I need someone to comfort me and that's him. I plan to see him and maybe we'll see how we feel around each other. Maybe it isn't the same or maybe sparks will fly again and kinda make my decision already. So what do I do? I'm so torn about making the right decision because I don't want to hurt anyone, not me and not him.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    I'm assuming you're a young female and I am assuming that you don't know what you want because of it. You want fun and you want excitement and if you forgo that, you'll probably end up leaving him and your two kids when you hit your midlife crisis stage and go fuck 20 year old college boys. Dead serious.

    Be young and have fun, stay safe and protected. Don't sit there thinking you HAVE to have him because he is the best you can get. I just got out of a marriage that I ended up in with that mindset. If that is your reasoning, that he's "good enough for you" rather than that you genuinely want to be with him, you'll wish you stayed single and played the slots a few more times before committing to one person.

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    • Wow like you literally said everything that's on my mind and I'm just hoping to be convinced that Im wrong. I don't know what I want! If I want to be proven wrong then that means what I really want is to be with him. But if that's what I'm thinking which is what you just said then that's what I should stick with. I'm so torn :/

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  • Typically female mindset. Thinking you can do better than what you have. Well, as you see, reality hit you right in tha motha fuckin face biotch!

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    • Okay so I'm guessing I should go back with him? Lol and just learn to appreciate him like I know I should and realize there is no such thing as "doing better?"

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Why would you do that why?

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  • ygrowup

    You think to much, follow your heart!

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    • Following my heart would be to get back with him again if were both on the same page. My mind is telling me to not make the same mistake twice. I just have to discipline myself and follow my heart like you said.

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