Is it normal to feel this way to someone online?

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Hello, I'm a girl (21 years old) never had a relationship (because of familial issues) you see.. I currently know this guy in a social app. online.. he is from the middle east and 20 years old.. it is my first time using this kind of apps. (I only use Facebook, nothing more.. and I only use it for my family and friends that I met in real life or in person) Well I met him just 3 weeks ago, the first few days we had some friendly chat (no webcams, phone calls or other things.. just chat and sharing pictures) and we talked about a lot of things that would let us know more about each other.. he is a gentlemen throughout our conversation.. no indecent stuffs or talks. I think he is a nice guy whom I can continue to have a conversation everyday and it made me really happy.

Throughout those weeks we had a daily routine (like when will we talk, what stuffs we do), I think we can relate to each other and he told me that he likes me.. then my family had a problem and I wasn't able to talk to him for about a week.. I thought I wouldn't be able to talk to him anymore.. so I told him that we should stop our chats.. and it was really sad (I think both in our part).. and I felt really sad that time, always thinking about him and I had this new kind of feeling towards him.. (I have some guy friends and met some of them.. but I never really felt this kind of feeling towards them) while I think I'm so silly to feel like this to someone whom I never met in person.. like love? (I don't know.. but I really felt we had some kind of connection.. but scared at the same time because I know this probably won't work out.. due to our distance) and I absolutely miss him so much..

Is it normal for me to feel this way? should I continue to talk to him?

(thanks, sorry for my bad english)

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Comments ( 21 )
  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    What are your parents reasons for wanting to squelch this friendship? If its over something trivial like that he's from the Middle East (ETC), I say screw them. From the details you've given us, I see nothing wrong in you continuing to talk to him.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Middle eastern? 4 words: Not Without My Daughter. Read it.

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    • charli.m
      10 years ago

      Great book. I think she wrote a second one, but I can't remember.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    Take a dump you may feel better

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      *messes himself explosively

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  • disthing
    10 years ago

    Of course it's normal. People have long-distance crushes all the time, especially now we have the internet. Come on, you should know this by now!

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  • Listen
    10 years ago

    But where do you live?

    And absolutely it's normal. It's great, because you have developed natural feeling towards him without stupid factors like his popularity, good looks, etc.

    It's understandable your parents respond that way, you need to make them realise it's safe and fine.

    If you truly love him, and if he should be your boyfriend and potential husband, then you will keep talking with him and meeting up with him. Don't let distance ruin awesome emotions and a great life potential.

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  • Btyou
    10 years ago

    Big fat niguh dick

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    • Abend_zersetzen_mich
      10 years ago

      How insightful and intellectually stimulating.

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  • Maggie2000
    10 years ago

    Poster, where are you from? UK? USA?
    Just be careful when meeting people on the internet.
    If you are new to meeting people online, the first apparently decent ones can seem very attractive!
    It is easy to feel like you have fallen in love.
    Please be aware that many men in certain areas and countries will try to get Western women as girlfriends and wives.
    Middle Eastern men have very different family values to those of the Western world.
    As 'GoraIntoDesiGals' said above, it is worth researching these things.
    Middle Eastern men often come across as charming and sincere, but please question his desire to talk to a woman like you.
    Mulsim Middle Eastern men are very controlled by 'family' and are also allowed to have more than one wife. They even breed with their own cousins. They can be very physically abusive towards women.
    Just be wary of who you are talking to online.

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  • Abend_zersetzen_mich
    10 years ago

    Why does your family have any authority in the matter? Are you one of the Duggar children?

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  • pacinoharmon
    10 years ago

    Where are you from? Distance can work, but being in different countries can make it harder. I agree with the first comment; why do your parents not approve of you talking to him?

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  • Rotanomom
    10 years ago

    Met my girlfriend on an app. We talked a couple months before meeting, then I went to meet her in her country. Best moments of my life. She's coming to continue her studies here in a couple months for a year, I'm very happy. Follow what you believe, great things can come out of it. I followed my heart and I found the most amazing woman on earth for me.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    It's normal if you're isolated and you're isolated from people outside of your family. So it's probably normal in your case.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    10 years ago

    totally, but it hurts even more if you found out he's not the person he says he is, some people say sometimes guys are nice to compensate for what they do not have you can keep that in mind and learn more by talking to other people

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    • Eveyana
      10 years ago

      Some people spend decades with each other in real life and find out after 10-20 years of marriage that they are not the person they thought they were. Sometimes, you have to take a chance while being relatively safe and careful. Otherwise, you will never know when a good opportunity might pass you by.

      You see a lot of people being cynical and saying that true love doesn't exist or that there is no such thing as a good man / woman and yet they never take a chance when the right person comes along.

      To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.

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  • LordHawHaw
    10 years ago

    I'm not trying to be racist or anything but you should watch out with people from the middle east.

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  • Dillon
    10 years ago

    Coz some damn fool told me you were the best.

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  • Belly_Cameron
    10 years ago

    It reminds me of a time when i was skinny.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      What happened? Did you discover KFC?

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      • Belly_Cameron
        10 years ago

        No i hate KFC Maccy Dee's is the way forward.

        I'm like shut up and take my money.

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