Is it normal to feel this way in a relationship ?

but the question is why must you be single??...he may not be the one then. Not being rude just saying, maybe you need to find someone who wants to do the same things as you and not hold you back.

It's run its course.

Imagine being married to him and living this life for the rest of your days. If that seems unbearable to you, get out of this relationship now.
You have plenty of fun years left in you yet! You are still young and gorgeous - go get 'em!!

You've been together for a long time, thus monotony kicks in. I think you're bored with this relationship as is he, which is probably why you guys argue a lot. You want some space, some time to have fun on your own. A part of me wants to suggests having an open relationship but that never works. Another part of me suggests leaving him. However, a dominate part of me suggests trying to work things out before you leave. This is very common in relationships and if you can both get through this then I feel that you two can get through anything.

I just dont want to grow old and say to myself, i wish i lived life more to its potential. You only live once.

Ya'll all have great advice. I see every point yall are saying and i dont know if i feel like the bad one because i feel this way. i know this relationship is not working because of me, but i cant help the way i feel sometimes..and i dont think its fair for him. I had to become step mom when i was 18, with him having a now 5yr old. I have a lot of responsibility at such a young age..I just feel like im scared to leave because i dont know what to do with myself, hes all i ever known. and when i do tell him i want to have a break he thinks i want to "whore" around which is not my intention. Just a horrible time.

Exactly plum. People give up to easily on the ones they say they love. Try some space if it doesn't work then I guess its over.

Don't you think that if you had more time to yourself this feeling would go away a bit? Try going out separately, maybe even see each other a bit less? I know it sounds like a solution for a couple where the love is gone, but actually maybe some space and reinventing your own life and personality could actually bring back the feeling of missing each other. It doesn't always have to be about finding another or a new relationship but just about living a bit in general, new experiences!

It is very normal to feel the way you do. you are not selfish.

The choice is yours: would you rather live with regret because your afraid to tell him what you need, and hurt his feelings? or you can choose to prioritize your own happiness, which will be hard b/c you've been so used to making compromises. if you compromise your lifes potential, you might end up resenting him. that happens all the time.

well i hope everything works out for you, sooner rather than later. remember, you are entitled to make choices in your best interest.

And an open relationship totally defeats the meaning of love and making that one person feel special do not go with that. Trust me you don't wanna throw away this over wanting to go have fun, I do get what your saying and all but if what your saying is you wanna have fun with other men...then maybe you should really rethink your relationship and if you really want it. It is hard to find someone these days that will stay and be with you forever...you have already built your way up with him. Why crush it for a little fun?

NOOOO!!! Do not break up with him!! Thats the problem these days is girls always complain about how they feel trapped...that means the guy frikken cares about you!! Kinda hard to find these days if you ask me. I have been with some assholes and I am finally with mine of 3 years now. Great guy. I used to be all like ughh I wanna party...buttt you just have to be able to have fun together. And your right trust is a huge issue if he is really on your case about you cheating on him then yeah thats not right but if he's worried your going to leave him then he loves you and fears you will find someone better. And little does he know thats exactly what your thinking. Maybe suggest fun things? Is he that bad on your case?