Is it normal to feel this way before a break-up?

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So i been with my boyfriend of almost 5 yrs, we are going through a rocky time. Trust issues,Arguing the works..anyways, i think i just cant go through this relationship anymore and i dont know how to deal with it if i decide to. What are the best ways to cope with this difficult time? Ive never been in a serious relationship before and i just feel weak at times were i think i know what i want but i dont know how to stay strong to it, such as i start missing him, or feel lonely. I know our relationship is not healthy, im getting exhausted with the fighting. How do stay strong and hold back from the temptation of getting into this mess again? i am just scared of what my life will be like after all this :( please help.

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    I can't be totally sure if i'm thinking of this situation right, but I think when anyone is in a fighting period in their relationship (Which happens to almost everyone)they consider breaking up, even if they don't fight much, or they just had a fight this morning they get that way. I think it's possible your just in that slump right now. My advice, if you guys aren't fighting for a ligitimate reason (Example, someone cheated) Consider these helpful relationship tactics xD 1. Agree to disagree. If you guys are fighting over something trivial because you guy aren't thinking on teh same wave lenght, just accept that he's wrong in your books, but if he think he's right, then so be it :P 2. Let him win. "Your right" "Ohh, I didn't think of it that way!" "I'm sorry, I didn't think I was doing that" It sounds lame but sometimes it has to be done. 3.Actually consider the problem and make a big effort to change it. Maybe his issue is that you don't sex much anymore. Stay calm and explain to him what needs to be done to get you wanting to have sex. Or maybe he wishes you would help out around the house more, then just make an obvious effort in that. Sorry it's so much to read! If it's just a petty fight thing, hold on, I'm sure it's nothing. If you are fighting over somethign big, then I'm afraid it may be over and maybe you should move on. Not totally clear on teh whole situation, but good luck! :)

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    Save this emotional shit for yahoo answers dude

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      what the hell is your problem dude? how about you get the fuck out of MY SHIT.

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      • squeallikeasacofpigs
        12 years ago

        AHahahahahaha your the one the post YOUR SHIT on the internet for everyone to see you idiot!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago

          No shit! what the hell you think this website is for? Dont you have anything better to do you fuckin loser, because im sure you are, acting all hard on the other side of a computer lol. make me laugh.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    Thanks guys that helps a lot!! Ill def. consider all these points

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    • plum6
      12 years ago

      What? Really? Don't you think that a five year relationship is worth trying to mend? I assume that you had at least 4,5 pretty solid and happy years together, that's special and worth saving in my opinion.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    His time is up!

    Establish some female friendships now before you break up so that you have people to go out with and friends to keep you busy. Stay strong and completely ignore his calls, block his number and fb if necessary so that you don't give in - only for you to waste more time, and split at a later date.

    My friend started dating a new bf and when the old one found out he came to her house cying etc. Within 3 weeks he was back to swearing and abusing her. Now they've split again! She couldn't bear to see him sad but lost her chance now with the second guy - she wouldn't listen to reason.

    If you're fighting you need space. Try that argument to soften the blow and then don't get back in touch. Get busy girl so as to keep your resolve. I was thinking the other day about some of the guys I went out with long-term bfs, and thank God that I dumped them. I would've had an awful life with any of them :o( but I knew to get out (no matter how hard) for MY own good.

    You may be afraid of the future but it will all work out great!

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