Is it normal to feel this way about wanting a boy and a girl

Please help!!!! So I'm a 20 year old female. I've never had a boyfriend or done anything sexually with a anybody before ( home schooled ). And im not sure what do about how I'm feeling about what I'm about to say so here it goes. I want a boyfriend always have pictured myself with a guy but sometimes I mean rare occasion I'm more sexually aroused and fantasy more about girls. I do to guys to but it seems alot easier for me with girls. Now I don't have a things against gays or anything so don't get me wrong I just don't want a relationship with a girl. I want a guy I want to married one to have children with one etc. I am just fantasize about girls sometimes and sometimes it's easier with girls then guys. And it also not easy with my family either alot of them think or sense I'm gay because I dress more Tommy boyish and love sports and don't go crazy when a cute guy talks to me or I guess a easy way to put it im not as sluty as my sisters whom are younger then me. So is it normal to feel more aroused sometimes by girls then guys but still do with guys and just don't ever want to be with a girl only guys. Will these feeling pass or something please give me some feedback. Thanks everyone.

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  • Hmmaybe

    Gender related concepts consist loosely of 4 seperate scales:

    biological gender (your sex chromosomes)
    e.g. XX, XY or XXY

    gender identity (what gender you view yourself as, tends to be the same as biological gender)
    e.g. cisgendered, transgender, gender queer etc.

    gender expression (what gender you act like, dress like, governed by a balance between gender identity and social norms)
    e.g. male, female, androgenous

    sexuality (which gender you are attracted to)
    e.g. heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, asexual

    Unfortunately people tend to guess your position on some some scales using your position on others. Obviously there are trends, but guessing that someone is homosexual, just because their gender expression does not completely match their biological gender is not a good idea. It seems that your parents have, however, doen just that.

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    • LPrttyktty2791

      Awesome answer. You a psych major? :)

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  • Jukebox13

    Don't worry :) it doesn't matter that you were home schooled cause I never was and I even fantasized about girls yet I'm 100% straight ( I'm a female also). I also did find it much more easier and exciting but I freaked out at the thought of myself bring with someone other than a guy. It just might be a phase

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  • annastasia

    which one makes you feel happier is all that matters and how you feel around them do you feel this special feeling with guys or girls who makes you get that special feeling inside

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  • PumpkinKate

    Tommy Boy was a funny movie.

    Also, I feel that sexuality is fluid and not so easily defined. Don't worry about it, it's normal.

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  • nobodyspecial

    I think if you got a bf, and started having sex with a guy, your fantasies about girls might go away. I believe its a lack of sex that makes our minds think otherwise.

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  • maxtor

    sounds like you are bi-sexual which is not uncommon at all. women and men alike have those urges that can be sexually turned on with either sex. i have been with men but love women. i only like sex with men occasionally but make love to women. i have had a variety of sexual needs and have quenched my thirst on all. some people hold those urges inside and never pursue their wishes. what is normal is normal for you. go find you a friend and see how you feel. there are many women out there that enjoy being with same gender. got to bisexual.com and you can do a lot of reading or maybe meet a nice partner in your area. maybe a couple that you can be freinds with and have both at once.

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  • kissmeimirish

    you may find it easier to fantasise about women because thats all you physically know in relation to sexual activity because you know your way around your anatomy, not so much the male anatomy as you stated you have done nothing sexual with anyone

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  • wisdom4all

    Wanna be my girlfriend? Im 25 male and as you, I also think it's much better having sex with girls hehehe.. But unlike you I don't want to marry a guy or even sexually touch one lol... what do you say? :D

    *I mean it!

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  • biboymccoy

    Consider the fact that you might be bisexual. I am, and I think it's awesome =)

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  • plum6

    like Picasso said you should really broaden your experiences and just see what you like. Especially at your age it is important to see what you are comfortable with. Sex is not bad! Would you really want to be 50, married with kids and then realizing that you want something different? for fuck's sake experiment a bit!

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  • ravageme

    I used to have a crush on a girl at my school who is just like you. I'm a 17 years old going on 18, and I used to think I was bisexual. But I have to admit, I LOVE penises more than coochies, so that's that. You are okay. Just think about it as another aspect of your life I personally don't let sexuality define me or anyone else. Be you, and even though most people might not like it, they will respect you one way or another. Be you! <3

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  • Parasponge1

    Its normal a lot of people feel just the same way you do. Think about all of the girls who are strait and know all the words to the song I kissed a girl.

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  • Picasso

    I say have some sex. Figure out what you like and don't like. Sometimes fantasies are good to have for JUST THAT - fantasizing. I think everyone has some fantasies that they find arousing but wouldn't actually want to DO in real life. On the other hand, if you find that you really do love men (want to marry one and all that) but you still have sexual feelings for women... well, I'm sure there's a man out there somewhere who could love you just the way you are.

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  • Calidoush

    Sexuality is measured on a chart
    1-7
    1 Comepletely homosexual
    7 heterosexual
    Believe it or not 90% of the population is a 4
    words 4 thought

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  • MissTwinless

    you may be homosexual and heteroromantic....

    the opposite of me, ha

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  • Wolfmankayl

    Sounds like you might be a natural polygamist. You might be happier marrying a husband who has more than one wife.

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