Is it normal to feel this way about my pregnancy?

Day 1. Got my haircut felt great, peed on a stick and spent the rest of the day crying as two lines appeared 3 times. I finally summed up the courage to meet my boyfriend for dinner and we've been together 18 months so I thought he'd be happy but he said we aren't ready, I get that but it didn't stop me from crying in a busy restaurant.

Day 2. I got my bloods done, spent all day romancing and talking about a future. He now feels confident about keeping it and I feel really happy, I come home and my mum is suggesting abortion and I start crying again.

I am 21 (22 next week), studying college, working 2 part times jobs and living at home. My boyfriend is 21, works 40 hours at a deli, applied police force and does web design on the side and living at home.

Everyone is telling me the right thing is to abort, and it breaks my heart but I feel like I am being unrealistic about keeping it too, like I am disappointing the whole world, even though it fills me with so much happiness. I don't know where I will be in 9 months time, hopefully graduated and ready for a family, my unplanned pregnancy feels like it has come a few months too early as I wanted to have children after graduation. My situation looks really bad to a lot of people, but even if I had a home of my own and a husband, that can easily be all lost too so nobody is ever really truly ready to have kids, and I have always felt only rich people can raise children (as there is a lot of judgement on people who struggle financially raising children).

I've always wanted to be a young mother, spend a year or two raising a child and doing part time work until they are in kinder so I can begin a career, but my mum of all people are telling me I am ruining lives. Keeping it makes me so joyed and abortion I keep bringing myself to tears, I am going to see a counselor to find my answer, but I feel like it's me against the world and is this normal? I've read so many pregnancy blogs and people are thrilled, families thrilled, partners thrilled, like things look so peachy for them but I feel like I am being bullied so I am not telling anyone because they people I thought support me, aren't.

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Based on 41 votes (28 yes)
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  • Grimlock2020

    Honestly it sounds like you're looking really forward to being a mother so I would go ahead and go through with it. Other people are always going to judge but I bet as soon as you have that baby they are going to flock to it and think it's wonderful. If you feel like you can handle it then you should be fine, especially if your bf is supportive.

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  • BurnaBaby27

    You'll be a great mom, just keep your head up. Don't get discouraged. Continue to work hard. Your baby will bring so much joy into all of your lives. He or she will be greatly loved and cared for.

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  • Love11

    Did you know that the baby is still alive when in the womb? If you abort it, you murder it! But in a crazy world like this, they don't count it as murder. Trust me, you will feel much better if you don't get an abortion.

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  • Roboard27

    I want to start off by saying congratulations. Being pregnant and starting a family is only as beautiful as you let it be. My Wife and I faced the situation, you are currently facing a few years ago. As we are young a well, ill be the first to say its very hard going through the feelings you feel. But at the end of the day, this is YOU and the FATHER of the child's family. No one else's and it is YOUR body. I can tell through your text though it was unplanned, you are excited and so is he. That is what matters, in no way are you ruining anyone's life, you are in fact creating one. Appreciate the opportunity you have been given, as I said my wife and I can relate, unfortunately after dealing with the negative feedback that too are dealing with, and telling everyone it's what we wanted, we lost our child later in the pregnancy, now down the road when we are ready we are having trouble conceiving. I do not say this to control your thoughts in anyway. I simply say this in hopes that if its what you and him want you stay true to yourself and it will all come together.

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  • Maggie2000

    You sound like you are already able and willing to fight to keep your baby! You and all the others will love the little one when he or she is born. All the best to you all!

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  • jax906

    Screw the haters! When my mom found out she was pregnant with me, my dad wanted me to be aborted. But I have been very successful and brought my mom much joy (especially over the 10 years my mom spent with my dad and through her divorce). Think about what your baby can be capable of doing and all the love you will have for this special being that you are part of, and that is part of you. You created life and you will be able to take care of it. If you are worried about money or school, think about how many people die everyday in car wrecks or of a heart attack. We can lose everything in a moment. One thing you can't lose is the love you will have for your baby and the bond you will feel after going through with what is in your heart. If worse comes to worse, you can always have your baby be adopted. There are many couples who are unable to have children naturally who would love to have your baby.

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  • bananaface

    An abortion is an awful thing to have to go through, even if that's the only thing the person wants to do. You sound like you want to keep the baby, so if you do have an abortion, then do you not think you will regret it massively? I can't imagine that's an easy thing to get over either.

    When my sister got pregnant, no-one was thrilled; she was 16, she'd have to leave her job, etc. She decided to keep the baby, although several people suggested that she get an abortion. When people realised she was very serious about keeping the baby, they had to deal with it. Soon enough everyone was really excited, and everyone is so happy that she decided to keep him, because my nephew is just the most wonderful person. I don't know your family, but if you stand your ground, is there a chance they will accept your decision and support you? You are their child, after all.

    An abortion seems like a traumatic thing to go through, and for the sake of it being "a few months too early"? Either way, just have a serious think about what *you* want, because it's a serious decision, and a one you shouldn't make when you aren't completely sure of what you want. I'm sure your parents will support your choice, even if they don't like it. It would be unbelievably cold of them not to. I hope it all works out for you. Good luck!:)

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  • moomus

    Don't have an abortion if you feel
    That way. You will regret it for the rest if your life. Fuck what anyone says, it will work out fine. I have 3 kids and have lots of crap happen to me but we are all ok and the kids are happy and loved,and that's what matters

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Was this planned? did you not use contraception.

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