Is it normal to feel this way about money?

89% Normal
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I am currently seeing someone deployed quite far away and wants me to come visit. The plane ticket is more than a month of my salary, knowing I'd have no way to pay for it, he has volunteered to do so. I feel extremely guilty about this and I'm afraid that I might act differently knowing the amount of money he has spent to have me there and I will carry this guilt with me the entire time I'd be there with him. I never like to take money from anyone, usually I'm the one to spot people and I have no problems doing so but having him pay for this makes me feel rather useless and dependent along with the guilt of taking his very hard earned money. While I would normally just decline anything that was out of my financial grasp and not be bothered by it I really wanted to see him so I agreed and the guilt is becoming much more than I had anticipated. Am I the only one that feels this way when others foot the bill? It seems most other girls are happy having someone else willing to pay for things, and don't get me wrong it makes me very happy that he wants to see me enough to blow this kinda cash on it but I can't help feeling like a 'loser' because I couldn't afford it myself and in turn feel guilty that I had to depend on him for it, is this normal?

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Based on 27 votes (24 yes)
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  • guthix
    12 years ago

    You could offer to pay him back....which I expect he'll decline....and at least you offered

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  • allik_21
    13 years ago

    Its okay for people to pay for you if you want to go go dont spend your money when you dont have too

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  • PlatinumDutchBMW
    13 years ago

    Would it make you feel any better if you found out he got a discount on the plane ticket?

    Take this as a gift from him, don't feel guilty. Obviously he cares enough about you to purchase a gift that large, because he wants to see you that badly.

    I understand where you're coming from completely. I hate people paying my way, I am also a self-sufficient girl. But, this sounds like a gift, so accept it.

    Good luck! ;)

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