Is it normal to feel this way about girls?

that's what girls say to feel better about themselves and push the blame to the man for their relationship not working. It's true - some guys are only after sex, but they are easy to see a mile away! But, no, girls do want love and just because they talk all butthurt about guys just means they are venting. If you're 18, then I can only assume they are 18 - at that age let's just say you ain't seen nothin' yet. Go get yourself a nice girl and stay clear of the ones with heads stuck up their asses.

Yeah. U might be shooting urself in the foot. Sex is an important part of a loving relationship. Once a woman sees u on a sexual level it often opens up the doors to a more meaningful relationship. And totally, women say that just to feel better about themselves and the shit choice they're previously made. Being the 'good guy' the one she thinks of as a 'brother' lol story as old as time. You set urself up for it. Try making your intensions clear from the start. Ask her out, make her laugh and make physical contact wether it's just holding her hand or a kiss, the thrill of a first touch, you'll send her mind careening to what MORE would feel like. Oh and assert your worth. Don't pay for the tab ALL urself the first time. Offer to split it.

Girls are cute so give um that lower your standerds love at first sure could work but that's bull get to know a girl become her friend take it slow if you like her then ask her out

Don't give any girl signs of sex. Let HER understand and see for herself

Steriotypes

i dont like how people judge other sexes races etc in general just because your a guy you dont have to be only interested in sex but im pretty sure some girls are only interested in sex but the people who are so gullible to believe these things are blind (metaphorically speaking)wow i feel so old like a wise 50 year old priest lol

And the whole being "too nice" thing turns chicks off. You gotta be funny and sweet, but also show them you want them sexually and like someone else said above, be ready to just walk away. Nothing like letting them get a little jealous and having them pursue you for a change. This seems to sometimes make them realize they like you and don't want to be without you. It's games and it's bs, but it's the way it is.

Also, it may be tough, but the first move is typically up to the guy. As much as you might want them to kiss you first cause you're shy or whatnot, you gotta take the opportunity to do it first.

it depends really on the girls your listening to and it must mean that they have had a bad experiance.

I didn't read the comments so I might be treading ground where someone has treaded before but women DO NOT want a good, nice, hardworking man in general. THey want someone that will make them wet below and someone who will ruin their lives if given the chance.

It isn't fare for guys like us but then again, I"m happy with my cow of a fiance.

Maybe you bring up the word "love" too quickly and women find you desperate? Your romantic spirit is endearing but if you jump to true love and romance and all of that, you might scare off some ladies who aren't sure what they want. I personally have usually been attracted to nice guys who are nerdy. A decent amount were also super shy. I found it endearing and it was nice to know they weren't some fake ass players.

thanks for your comments! im just going to conclude that most girls say those things to make themselfs feel better and that they mostly dont really mean it and also they dont acctuly know what they want... il try not to let it get to me... not all girls can be insane?.... right? :-P

Me too dear friend
me too

Galaxy500 is right on the money. The girls who say this are venting and blaming their own relationship failures and mistakes on "men." In saying this, they are trying to make men feel guilty about their own sexual desires. And, this only works because sex has been demonized so much by religion. Don't accept the negative premises behind these statements.

Men and women are very different in how they respond sexually to one another. This difference, and the consequent confusion and misunderstanding between the sexes, is at the root of the difficulties you are running into. Girls are just as interested in sex as boys (if not more), but they require the right environment, context, and chemistry. If this isn't right, they won't be attracted to the boy, they won't have feelings for him, or worse: He might come across as "creepy" or as giving off "bad vibes." This negative feeling is analogous to, and can be just as strong as, the feeling you get when you look at a girl who is "ugly."

You say that you are presenting yourself as a "nice kind guy," perhaps because most people have told you that that's what girls are looking for. I would say that you have been misled. If you look around you, you will notice that the "nice guys" usually have a lot of difficulties finding girls; instead, "bad boys", jerks, those who are aggressive, confident, and sexual, seem to be surrounded by girls--and usually the most attractive ones. If this sounds like a contradiction between what we are taught, and the way things really are, you are absolutely right. And, this is just the tip of the iceberg.

If you want to find out why you are "always turned down," you are going to need to learn about what girls really find attractive (and what they find unattractive), as opposed to what most people tell you. And, to avoid getting turned down, you are going to need to change things about yourself accordingly. Good luck! This is no easy task. There are scores of books and articles out there on the subject, but I'm not going to make any recommendations; the subject matter is highly controversial and the literature is filled with contradictions.

I am a girl. Most girls around your age, younger and older ARE used to guys who only want sex. They may say they don't like that, but honestly...its a feeling of being physically wanted. Of being beautiful. And...guys who aren't into that don't appeal to most girls. Maybe you're just going for the wrong type. Not all girls are like this. The prettier and the more relationships a girl has had, the less they're going to be interested in a guy who doesn't want sex. Maybe lower your standards just a little, get to know other girls and talk to them before trying a relationship, learn the different types. Eventually you'll find someone who's right for you.