Is it normal to feel this way?

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I became friends with a girl at work a few months ago and we really seemed to hit it off. I wasn't interested in her as more than just a friend at the time however, not because she wasnt beautiful cause she is, but I was in a relationship with someone at the time. She didnt seem that interested either so everything was cool.

As time passed however, she and I began hanging out a lot more, I got to know her better, and I began liking her a lot more, granted I was still in a relationship. After my girl and I broke up, not that it had anything to do with my friend, she and I began spending even more time together getting to know each other very well.

It was during this time that I realized that I was falling for her. The fact that she had a son and that she was still living with her baby's father even if she claimed they werent together, that shouldve pushed me away, it didnt, at all.

One day I heard that a music group that she and I both liked was coming to our town, so I got a pair of tickets and asked her if she wanted to go. She said she did but that she had to find a babysitter, and after about a week, she told me that she really wanted to go but that she couldnt. She even said that I could invite somebody else, so I did.

Well, when she found out that I had invited somebody else she got upset and well, ever since then, she and I dont hang out anymore, she talks to me but at the same time ignores me a lot, we still flirt, but it just seems different and well things just arent the same anymore. I used to think that based on the way we were getting along, how much we used to flirt, the time we spent together, and all the other things, that she liked me, but now I dont know what to think.
Is it normal to feel this way?to still have feelings for her? did I mess up with her?

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Based on 27 votes (18 yes)
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  • peterrabbyt2
    10 years ago

    You should have fucked her while you had the chance buddy.

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  • Mastersash
    13 years ago

    Naw, she seems kinda confusing.. no harm in saying something now tho! :)

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  • Magicer
    14 years ago

    I think it's faith that was bring you two together, and it was bad luck that got you both away from each others.. I suggest you Re start the whole process again and try slowly to get close to her again

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You didn't do anything wrong. But do try to understand that she has a child & that makes things complicated& difficult for her. So even though she said couldn't go, and couldn't - and it was right to expect you ask someone else - she still felt pretty disappointed.

    Underneath her playing it cool to deal with how disappointed she was she has pretty strong feelings for you. You matter more to her than she can deal with.

    Gently involve yourself with her and share how you really feel. This is what she is waiting for, and needs, & what will clear the air between you.

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  • Jen118584
    14 years ago

    I can't possibly see that you did anything wrong. Maybe something changed in her situation and she isn't at a good point for a relationship. Ask her if everything is alright, but don't insinuate that it has anything to do with you.

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