Is it normal to feel this nervous when asking a girl out?

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I just get the most nervous feeling when asking a girl out. I almost lose my voice and my mouth just goes completely dry and my heart rate just skyrockets as I try to get the words out. I know it kind of makes them feel uncomfortable and that's probably the reason they say no.

I've been on stage before in front of an audience playing guitar and I get so scared up there but not nearly as scared when asking a girl out. I know it's fear of rejection and I've never had a girlfriend before so I try to be as cool as possible but it never works.

It's like the most nerve racking thing I force myself to do because I'm so tired of being shy and not taking any opportunities when I should be.

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  • those3simplewords
    10 years ago

    um ...how is this not normal lol

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    • EdgeFencer
      10 years ago

      It's not normal because I'm afraid it's going to be this way for the rest of my life. A guy can only take so many rejections before he realizes that he's better off going asexual.

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      • those3simplewords
        10 years ago

        Well not every guy that is rejected in life converts to becoming an asexual, unless you already have those tendencies just pointing out. I understand that you are afraid of being rejected though it happens and everyone has to go through at some stage during their life, I would say feel the fear and do it anyway. Don't let fear stop you! It is just a feeling and it can't harm you just limits you from what you want if you let it get to you.

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  • Shackleford96
    10 years ago

    I always become this bumbling buffoon anytime I try to pursue a woman. I could practically be your twin from the way you wrote this.

    Sometimes though, you just have to relax and talk to them without anything else in mind. Just talk like you would to anybody.

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  • Jeaneathean
    10 years ago

    Bad, ain't it? I have this thing where if I fancy a girl a lot I can't even speak....

    You'll get used to it. I expect the nervousness will seem an appealing quality to the right girl.

    I wish you well.

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  • [email protected]
    10 years ago

    Just stay inside of your cave instead.

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    • ucipher8
      10 years ago

      And come outside for food and drink, only.

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  • IDiGAFi
    10 years ago

    That's not the reason. They say no because you are going about it the wrong way. You'll figure it out, don't worry.

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  • ScooterNyne
    10 years ago

    best cure for this is an asshole friend. Hit the town with him and have him force you to ask every girl out. And if you fail then have him make a fool of you. Honest to god it works.

    I had trouble talking to girls without shitting a brick too. So I took a goofy asshole with me to the mall and whenever I failed to talk to someone he would do it for me and make me look like a total idiot. He even had a girl slap me by telling her I said something perverted or rude. Then after getting tired of the abuse I said fuck it. Went up to this fine looking girl and calmly, with a slight irritated tone haha, asked for her number. And that's how I got my very first number.

    Because of that god awful experience, rejection is hilarious and the experience of talking to girls and people in general even, is fun and stress free. Don't give a shit.

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