Is it normal to feel this kind of guilt

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Since my last post about me and my ex getting back together, things have been going surprisingly for me, eventhough my GF kept me a secret from her parents since we started dating again.
She called me yesterday, and ask me, after 5 months like this, why should she give me a second chance and that I was an asshole.. I told her, it was up to her, but that I thought that she had done so when we started dating again. I feel like I'm under constant fear, because she might rethink our past at any minute and decide to end our relationship, is it normal to feel this kind of guilt?

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    I don't know the whole back story here but ya'll are ex's for a reason.

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    • tabula-rasa
      10 years ago

      But we're also together for a reason :)
      I'd hazard to say that my reasoning today is better than it was 4 years ago.

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Good luck with that.

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    • (s)aint
      10 years ago

      Agreed. Once an ex, always an ex.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    Wow, man.
    This one sounds crazy as a loon. I'd distance myself from her asap and try to find one who isn't so schizo. Sounds to me that she is definitely going to hurt you.

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  • ibreathelectric
    10 years ago

    Definitely have a catharsis night, like (s)aint said. If she's not over it after that, then get rid of her and start afresh with someone else.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    You should tell her that she can unleash her built up rage at you during an evening or so, but after that she should let the past be in the past.

    Myself I'd never get back with an ex, because at least for me there has been valid fucking reasons for me to end shit.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Yeah it is normal to feel guilty about your past transgression and that feeling will subside with time. Her mistrust of you should also go away with time. Talk to her about how you feel, communication's a good way to build up trust and intimacy.

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    • tabula-rasa
      10 years ago

      Thank you Purpler :)
      I hope you're right!

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  • Tommythecat.
    10 years ago

    Yes its normal, but you should try to focus on the present good. It's hard but yeah.

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    • tabula-rasa
      10 years ago

      Thanks friend, I'm trying but it seems she is caught up in past..

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